Stomach cancer spread to bone

[mummynumnum]

Dear MIL has Been battling a stomach tumour. She had Breast cancer a number of years back and this tumour is a secondary. She has been on medication and had stents but as palliative no chemo. She has just come out of hospice after her third stent. She has now been told that the drugs are nit working, there is fluid in stomach and cancer in spine. She must start chemo next week. I am so worried about her and anxious as she is so slight and frail, I am worried that she will not cope with the chemo. Any thoughts or advice?

I have no advice sorry. But just wanted to say I'm so sorry to hear of mil's diagnosis. I can't think of anything else to say another than sorry. I hope she is as pain free and comfortable as possible, hugs.

Thanks for the message. She was diagnosed last Xmas and stomach cancer is stage Iv. She is such a brave lady and this spread news came as a blow on the day she was leaving hospice after a stent. She has morphine patches and can self-administer oramorph. She is less than 7stone now and so worried about the effect of this chemo.

Hospitals will offer treatment on the assumption that it is desired.....

How does she feel about it? Does she understand she can refuse if she wishes to ....or is that too difficult a concept to consider :(

She keeps things q close to chest and she is having anxiety problems so she is often v muddled. Want to discuss with dh but don't want to upset him.

It's a difficult conversation. I would probably advise against being the person who brings it up.

By all means express your worries about her ability to endure but stop there and let them come around to it. I feel for you

does she have a macmillan nurse who she can talk to ?

Such a horrid blow for you all, and a cruel decision to make. Toothbrushthief has it right though. Plant the seed of thought and let them come to the conclusion themselves. Chemo is such a horrible thing to go through, especially palliatively. Thinking of you all

Yes may mention my concern to dh my worries but will let mil do her talking with him and nurses. She has a Macmillan nurse and they are amazing. Hospice people amazing as well.

could you speak to the Macmillan nurse, in confidence, about your concerns?

Yes that is an idea. Just been with mil and she was in pain after eating.