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sister taken to hospital

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beep · 01/01/2006 14:05

my sisters partner has just phoned me to say she has just been taken to hospital.She has cancer,it started in the bowel,by the time she found out she already had secondaries in the liver.she did well to start with and they were able to remove the bowel tumour after chemo,that was just before christmas last year.she had several different sorts of chemo until august when it was all stopped as it wasn't working and there was no more she could do.She was told she could have as little as 2 months to live then so she has done well.The whole family went to visit on boxing day and she looked a lot worse then to me.I had the feeling that she was just holding out to see everyone.Apparently her stoma burst this morning, I'm not sure yet,her partner said they were just taking her to theatre now.She lives in Exeter and I live in Cheltenham so Ifeel a long way away,Iam a single parent so it is difficult to rush done.

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beep · 01/01/2006 22:21

i will go on my own she is not aware of what is going on most of the time.they saw her on boxing day so were able to say goodbye then.

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coppertop · 01/01/2006 22:23

I'm so sorry, Beep. xx

suedonim · 01/01/2006 22:26

What an awful blow, I'm so sad for you, Beep.

LadySherlockofLGJ · 02/01/2006 11:25

Thinking of you today Beep.

TinyGang · 02/01/2006 11:29

So sorry. What terrible things you have had to cope with.

SPARKLER1 · 02/01/2006 17:55

So young Beep . How are her sons handling things? You lost your brother too? Your poor soul. Your strength is amazing.
How is your sister today?

NomDePlume · 02/01/2006 17:59

Beep, i wish you strength and courage in the coming months. xxx

anniebear · 02/01/2006 18:10

Thinking of you all lots and seding you lots of love

xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

SantaClausFrau · 02/01/2006 18:29

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trace2 · 02/01/2006 18:33

SO SORRY BEEP, my mums had the same hugs to you all at this sad time

silkcutandchardonnay · 02/01/2006 20:13

Wishing you lots of strength and thinking of you and your family, beep. Take care. XXX

EliBeentoSantasGrotto · 02/01/2006 20:16

Was thinking of you today, Beep - I hope your time with your sister was as you needed it to be. Hugs to you.

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beep · 03/01/2006 17:38

Thank you for all your kind messages,I have just got back from Exeter having spent 24 hours at the hospital with her.She is still holding on,she doesn't appear to be in pain,in fact the only question she has answered was are you in pain,she replied with an emphatic and crotchety "NO" once to her partner and once to the nurse.I have come home so I can get some sleep tonight and also to see my children,I will go back tomorrow for a few days.Her partner wants to have the funeral here in Cheltenham so it looks like I will be busy with that and trying to make sure we get a ramp built at the front door and arranging to store the sofa and get a hospital bed for when dd1 has her op.

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SPARKLER1 · 03/01/2006 18:17

Although extremely sad circumstances Beep, it must be good for you to be spending this quality time with your sister. Is she aware of how poorly she is right now and what could happen?
Hugs Sparkler

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beep · 03/01/2006 18:28

sparkler yes she is aware I think of how ill she is,when she collapsed on new years day she was in the bathroom trying to change her bag when she had problems with it and also started vomiting blood he rpartner went tohelp and she kept saying "not here Not now"makes me cry when ever I think about it and Iam so glad she will die in bed with her dignity.I am very grateful to be able to sit with her and talk about the good times we had and thank her for all her helpover the years,I am particlarly aware of this having lost my brother in an accident and not being able to tell him Iloved him (as a family we are not very good at saying things like that, the first time my mother told me was was 2 days before she died when I was40).sorry about all the rambling got to go for a bit I have to take my nephew home

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EliBeentoSantasGrotto · 03/01/2006 18:57

Oh, Beep. Such a painful time, old memories on top of the current hurt. I'm glad your sister is not in pain, will be thinking of you over the coming days - take care of yourself. xxx

SPARKLER1 · 03/01/2006 22:52

Beep - you are not rambling at all. I'm so glad that you are getting the quality time to spend with your sister. It must make you so determined after losing your brother.
My dsd has been admitted to hospital this evening. So I need to follow some of the advice, including my own, on your thread for myself in someways. He is not a well man.

swedishmum · 04/01/2006 00:49

Lots of positive wishes to you -my mum has a similar prognosis for bowel and liver cancer(secondaries to stomach, cervical, breast...). It must be so much harder that she is so much younger.xxx

sunchowder · 04/01/2006 01:13

So sad to read this beep, I wish I had some words of comfort for you. I can't imagine what you are going through right now, you have my sympathies.

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beep · 04/01/2006 07:19

sparkler i'm sorry to hear about your sds, are you able to visit him or is it far away.sunchowder and swedishmum thank you for your posts,it means a lot to know other people are thinking about you.She was such a positive person,last year she went on holiday 3 or 4 times as she loved spending time by the sea and with her family.Every whitsun she and I would take our children on holiday to somewhere by the sea in devon or cornwall,the children have such a good time together.She was such a suppport to me when my oldest was a baby and i was on my own. she lived in holland when he was born but came over to look after me for 10 days , then they moved to cheltenham when he was about 6 months I have fond memories of dumping a teething baby on them and going for a drink while they took himhome and put him to bed for me.they had him to stay at least once a year til he was in his teens.She looked after my eldr brothers children when my mad sil just dumped them on me and no one knew where my brother was Ilived in a tiny house and worked full time they offered to have them after a week and looked after them for 12 weeks without any second thought.Its funny but when we were children we used to fight a lot, she had terrible temper and sometimes Iwas quite scared. we were so awful together (there is 12 months 3 weeks between us)that though we were at the same school she was a boarder and I was at home. we became closer in our late teens.still had good rows but had learnt to walk away for half an hour to calm down.well I'm going to stop rambling now,have to get the kids up and ready for school then its back down the motorway,I will stay til friday if nessasary.

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SPARKLER1 · 06/01/2006 18:15

dsd isn't doing too bad thanks. How's things with your sister Beep? x

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beep · 08/01/2006 16:13

my sister died at 12.40 am on sat/sun night she died peacefully with her partner by her side.

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misdee · 08/01/2006 16:17

she is now at peace.

littlerach · 08/01/2006 16:17

So sorry to hear your tragic news.

i hope she is at peace now, and that you get plenty of support.

LadySherlockofLGJ · 08/01/2006 16:18

Oh Beep,

I can not begin to imagine how you are feeling at the moment. I am only glad that you got to spend time with your beloved sister, and from your posts you would appear to have had a wonderful relationhip with her. Those memories will sustain you.

My thoughts and prayers are with you .

Much love

LGJ

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