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He's even found a positive thing about Vasectomy!!

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susanmt · 30/10/2003 00:21

My dh is Mr Positive!! Always on the up, looks at the whole world through rose tinted specs (especially me) which is just as well as I am Mrs Glass-half-empty. Anyway, he got the final letter through about his vasectomy today confirming it is a week on Friday (hooooray!!). There was a note in it about afterwards. In bold print it said 'It is important to have intercourse as often as possible afterwaeds to flush out live sperm'. Medical approval for nookie!! It says nothing about what to do if your wife is 35 weeks pregnant (as I will be) and wont let you near her with a bargepole!
I'm so glad this is happening, but don't really like the idea of being bothered for sex so much (I'm sure he'll be nice really, but you should have seen the glint in his eye this eveing when he showed me the letter!).

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WideWebWitch · 30/10/2003 01:41

Ah bless him susanmt, he sounds like such a sweetie!

uknowme · 30/10/2003 01:43

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susanmt · 31/10/2003 13:37

Just another question - how long does he need to 'recuperate' for? He has this bizzare idea he could go to work on the Saturday (it's his turn to cover Saturday next week) and we can't find anyone who knows how long it takes - the only person we know who has had one (except for my Dad, and dh is naturally just a little shy of asking his FIL about this) had something evil sounding done to his piles at the same time and was off work for a week.
And how long does it take for everything to be negative so we can stop worrying?

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kmg1 · 31/10/2003 13:54

dh came home from his with a serious letter about sitting feet up for 24 hrs afterwards - which he took seriously. He took it easy for 3 or 4 days.

I can't remember how long it took for the all clear - but quite a while - possibly 6 months for us, but can be longer. I think there is a thread on here if you search.

valleygirl · 31/10/2003 13:59

My b/f had a vasectomy when with his ex (he just had the reversal 2 weeks ago!! £2500 private op -thanks very much the ex!!). re: the original vasectomy he had it done on thursday, had friday off, back to work on saturday - had a massive infection (balls size of melons apparantly) - and he has a sit down job, so answer is to take it easy. i can tell yuo he probbaly wasn't up for any sex for some time afterwards! i think it is about 3 months till they know for sure if it has been successful op.

mears · 31/10/2003 14:06

Relax susanmt - you just give him privacy and a box of Kleenex

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susanmt · 31/10/2003 14:26

mears

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susanmt · 31/10/2003 14:27

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SofiaAmes · 31/10/2003 22:08

mears, he'll probably say he needs paper towel.
I think my dh was back at work the next day after his (with his ex), but he was in bed for a week after the reversal (a much bigger op).

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susanmt · 08/11/2003 20:16

Hee Hee not quite as much Mr Positive today! He had the vasectomy yesterday and he's fine but having a bit of a moan and making a bit of a fuss until dd asked 'Daddy why is your willy sore?' when he made a miraculous recovery!
But it has made him incredibly attractive - I suppose that he chose to go through an operation for us, not something he had to to do, but something that will improve our lives no end. And maybe the fact that sex is TOTALLY out of the picture for a little while helps - we can have a good snog without me wondering if it is leading on to something I just could not face!!!

But a big 'THANKYOU' to dh - I'm very proud of him!

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suedonim · 08/11/2003 21:19

Lol at dd, Susan! Hope your dh feels 100% ok v soon.

jampot · 08/11/2003 21:53

My dh was advised to take plenty of salt baths and no unprotected sex until all clear. He did overdo it after the first day and he resembled a pair of aubergines. He also noticed a biting wind blowing through his jeans for about a week!!!!!

Slinky · 08/11/2003 23:26

My DH had his done back in April.

He decided to go privately to a local GP (female!) who specialises in "Non-surgical Laser Vasectomies".

Off we go for the appointment, asked if I wanted to go in the room with him. I politely declined and said I was quite happy reading a mag . Anyway, he was in there for AGES - finally comes hobbling out. Unfortunately, she could only get one tube - masses of prodding and proking on the side and not much luck.

She decided to leave it as it was causing some discomfort for DH - but he had to go back the following week for the other side to be done

He was off work for 2 weeks in the end - extremely swollen and bruised.

We're both relieved it's all over and done with now - at least we won't be getting any "little surprises" in the future

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susanmt · 09/11/2003 05:30

Yes he's been in the salt baths and it is all healing up really well - no bruising or swelling or signs of infection or anything - but he has become very attatched to his tight fitting pants (he only has one pair - was washing them in the bath tonight to get them back on asap!!) and his tracky bottoms!
The unprotected sex isn't really an issue right now considering I'm already pregnant, but he has come home with 2 little vials he has to fill up in Feb and March so he can get the all clear then. I'm SO paranoid about getting pg again I reckon there'll be NOTHING like that until we are 100% sure - having a baby in the interim is a good excuse to not be in the mood, I reckon!

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Cha · 09/11/2003 11:31

Interesting about the vials, susanmt. My dp is having a vasectomy soon and was somewhat dismayed when he discovered he would have to give 2 'samples' before we got the all clear for unprotected sex. He is imagining a cubicle with some porn mags and was not looking forward to it. In fact he almost said he didn't want to do it after all (wus). Is it normal for them to be given vials to do the deed in, in the privacy of their own hom, or is your dh special???

Slinky · 09/11/2003 20:19

Everyone I know who has had the snip have been given the vials to be filled at home

jampot · 09/11/2003 23:13

Everyone I know whose had a vasectomy had vials to fill at home. Collection itself was amusing as, in order not to miss any fluid we crammed this little vial on like a top hat.

Susanmt - I too was paranoid about not getting pregnant again (in fact I still am after nearly 7 years) so I tend to avoid ovulation dates. Last month tho' we did have sex on one of my ovulation days and I panicked but had my period a week early.

cas1968 · 13/11/2003 21:06

dh has the two little vials - to be filled in Dec and Jan

jampot - I will give dh your advice about how to collect it, but I can tell you now he will claim it will never fit

sunchowder · 14/11/2003 18:29

My DH had onewe were very careful to keep his legs up and ice his balls every 15 minutesHe was forced to wear a nice tight jock for at least a week after that and he had no complications. It is very important that they stay off of their feet. I hadn't seen this thread until now, so I hope your hubby is feeling great by now Susanmt. I stayed with him during the surgery--he was very brave,even when he turned green at the end when he tried to stand up.

It was so difficult for me to get the first sample from him (before we had it done)imagine me racing to the clinic in the car with the vial under my tit to keep it warmunforgettable--I wanted it frozen in case we changed our mind later and wanted another child. Then we were told he had such good (wildly active) spearm, they wanted him to donate!! NO WAY I said, if you knew what I had to go through just to get the sample!! Have you ever seen a willie right after a man has been swimming in ice cold water?? That is just what DH looked like when I told him we needed a sample. We never got a specimen after the operation, I showed him the vial and he started crying!!!! I assume it worked because it has been 9 years!

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