Sex post childbirth and ? about getting coil fitted.

[pie]

Well, how long did you wait? Isn't is customary for your GP to ask at your six week check if you have tried sex? If so does that mean that if you weren't supposed to have it before 6 weeks you would have been told? It is ok basically as long as you feel it is ok, right? Please?

Also I want to have a mirena fitted and as with all coils is is recommended/inisted that you have them put in when on your period, but as I am b/f for the forseable future there will probably be no periods, so can I insist anyway? Are doctors happy to fit a coil post birth before periods have returned?

TIA

Had one fitted at six week check last week - doctor said that as periods not due to return any time soon, just needed to be sure there was no chance i was pregnant. i don't think there's any problem with sex before 6 weeks - tried at 3 - too painful ouch. ok now, though sleep often preferable!

Sorry pie - forgot to post you a response. Can I say I made the mistake of resuming relaions at 2 weeks post ds 2 at age 2 weeks ( plus episiotomy). This meant DH thought I was up for it anytime which I wasn't - caused a lot of arguements ( I wated till after 6 weeks check 1st time around). You just need a big towel for the gushing
Anyway Pie, I wpould use condoms till 6 weeks then get coil fitted. By 6 weeks, everything returns back to normal size - uterus that is, not breasts if B/F. You don't need a period to get coil fitted. Enjoy Pie

mears is there medical reasons why you shouldn't make love before 6 weeks or is it just an old wives tale? Just wondering as I may not have any more kiddies anyway, want more but dh doesn't seem keen......

I had my mirena coil fitted at my 6 week check. I bf my first until 15 mo. and got my period back at 11 mo. With my 2nd I bf until 11 mo. and got my period back as soon as I stopped bfing. I was hoping that I would be one of the 1/3 of women with mirena who don't get periods...

grrrrrrrr is it only a third?

I had sex 8 days after I had DD, it didn't hurt - it was great. However I didn't have stitches and had a relatively easy birth.

We had sex (but not penetrative) 8 days after DS was born. It gave me great confidence that I was still a woman in my own right, IYSWIM, not just a childbearing creature. And it was lovely to capitalise on our at-homey-nestley-saying-"aaaah"-at-DS-all-the-time feeling. It was such a relief to come home from Stalag Post-Natal ward, DP was on 2 weeks paternity leave and had a weeks hol, and it was boiling sunshine. Pie: go for it, if it is what you want, a girl has to have a little of what she fancies, whatever it may be.

Can I just ask a quick off topic question? Not worth starting a new thread but someone here may know. I'm not going to bring on labour by having sex now am I? I'm 36+4 and do not want to go into labour before Friday (when I'll be 37 weeks) otherwise I have to go into hospital and I'm going for a home birth if pos. So far sex hasn't brought it on (obviously, I'm still here!) but I just wondered if anyone knows. Is it the case that sex will only start labour if this babe is ready to be born anyway? In which case we can hang on until Friday

Although actually I could do with a couple more weeks before babe turns up come to think of it so I really would like to know the answer to this. Thanks!

WWW, I think babies arrive when they feel like it, so whatever floats your boat, so to speak.

fio2 - there really isn't any reason why you should wait till 6 weeks before sex. However, there have been cases (rare) of women dying of air embolism caused by sex within a few days of delivery.

WWW - I really think sex only triggers labour when it is about to start anyway. Carry on with whatever

All I can say is wow! I'm impressed by all of you.