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Dp dyslexic? dyspraxic or not??? Help!

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changedfornow · 06/12/2005 17:36

I just wondered if anyone could shed any light on my dp

Basically I am in my wits end with him I believe he has got some sort of disorder or difficulty but I can't put my finger on it. I have changed my name for this as I don't want him to find ths

He's had problems all his life with :
reading
Writing
Spelling
Speech

He was clumsy as a child, he has been knocked down 3 times, is covered in scars, broken his leg, dislocated his shoulder and countless other things.

He got kicked out of school in his 3rd year for violent behaviour and disruptive (he was bullied and was standing up for himself. He went to an assessment centre where he said he was diagnosed with dyslexia but he is still having problems as an adult

Now as an adult he still:
Has problems with his speech (mumbles, jumbles his words up from time to time and when trying to get a point accross or is annoyed becomes very He went to an assessment centre where he said he was diagnosed with dyslexia but he is still having problems as an adultjerky in his speech.

Is still very clumsy, is forever tripping over things, bumping into furniture.

Finds it difficult to hold down a job because socially he can be very hard to get along with.

Can be tactless and socially awkward

Impulsive and dosen't think about consequences (he can't drive but got in my car and drove it round the corner because he wanted to help me)
Has found it difficult to hold down personal relationships. I am his sixth girlfriend in 7 years. He is 24.

Has very little self confidence in himself and gives up easily

Is unpredictibly moody and prone to violent out burst when really wound up (although not to me or our kids.

He is pretty good with numbers though and he plays darts
I love him to bits but I am finding it hard at the moment.
If any one could shed any light on him I would be very grateful thanks
.

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Blossomgoodwill · 06/12/2005 17:41

cfn - How is your dp's attention span?

changedfornow · 06/12/2005 18:07

it depends really on he's doing. If its something he likes like his favourite computer games he will sit for hours and I mean hours on them oblivious to everything. He forgot to pick up my kids once from school cos he got 'carried away'

Other times I'll be talking to him and he'll change the subject completely and i'll be left hanging in midair.

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changedfornow · 06/12/2005 19:04

Blossomgoodwill are you there?

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rummum · 06/12/2005 19:07

is he affectionate??

Blossomgoodwill · 06/12/2005 19:16

cfn - I am thinking more along the lines of Adhd/AS by your description. Although I am no expert.

rummum · 06/12/2005 19:18

so was I Blossomgoodwill... I was getting there in a round about sort of way

changedfornow · 06/12/2005 19:33

He is rummum very much so sometimes too affectionate.. he's very insecure and Jealous as well irrationally at times. (He has been cheated on before several times but even so)

Blossomhill I hadn't thought of ADHD/AS to be honest.

He is completely 'normal' in other respects. He is a lovely person really.. He is good with my kids and his own although quite strict with the four of them.

Another tendency that i've noticed he listens but dosen't take on board what I am or how i'm feeling.. he dosen't understand about PMT or PND at all. His ex the one he had the kids by has noticed this and his other symptoms.. she found him hell to live with.

He is also crap with money we've got loads of DVDs and CD's that he buys and are never listened or played.

He tells me he loves me all the time and that he is sorry for how he is. IO think he is just as confused by it all as I am ans sometimes it breaks me to see him struggling

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Blossomgoodwill · 06/12/2005 19:36

cfn - I guess it's just when you add up all of the things you have put that's what I think of. It's hard without actually meeting someone to really know iykiwm

changedfornow · 06/12/2005 20:42

Thats just it blossomhill.. I think it sounds that it could be that but without him getting seen then we don't know for sure. He's very sensitive about the dyslexia and I don't think he would go for anything else. I'm just wondering what i can do in terms of support for him and what I can do for him really.

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