My mum is having tests - it's suddenly hit me !

[Broadwalkempire]

My mum has been complaining of stomach pain for a while now and has finally been referred for invasive internal tests this week (the 'oscopy's') .

It was all in the back of my mind - I see her regularly as she lives near and she often pops in to see the dc's but suddenly over the weekend I've started to think about it - she has told me that she's very worried (not helping her pains I'm sure) and I've tried not to show any worry as I don't want to make it worse for her to think that her kids are all worrying on her behalf too (she probably suspects we are).

We've been generally fairly lucky with health in the family and she's still in her 60's. I got really upset with DH last night . He did the old "I'm sure she'll be fine" thing but I can't stop worrying. I woke up early this morning and just started crying again.

My Dad isn't saying much - he's not been too well himself recently either.

I know we have to wait and see but I hate seeing her upset too ...

Sorry, just felt the need to offload.

More likely to be an ulcer they are looking for i think? Scary I know though

The ball has been set rolling. Until you have some answers, whatever you do don't google.
Very best luck to your mum and don't let her google either.

I was tempted, I must admit but agree that it's a scary route to go down. She seems pretty well in herself but that's no indication as to what's going on inside. She is a born worrier and can spend days with her tummy "going over and over" as she describes it so I also wouldn't be surprised if some of the pain and discomfort also is tied in with the general worry IYSWIM which escalates the more her mind thinks the worst. At least she doesn't have to wait too long for the tests - that's sometimes one of the problems.

Hey broadwalk,

I know this was over a week ago but if you read this I hope all is ok. My Mum seems to be going through something similar but she hasn't told anyone but my Dad (who told me in confidence yesterday). She has also had stomach pain for a few months. The doctor has told her it is not an ulcer and referred her for the camera thingy. Not sure how he can tell without having looked but I know she is worried. It is annoying that I can't even reassure her as I am not supposed to know! I hope all goes well for your Mum.

Hi Nikki...sorry your mum is also having troubles. My mum had her general anaesthetic last week and they did an endoscopy and a colonoscopy. The diagnosis seems to be a diverticulitis thing coupled with IBS so although it's not nice at least it is something which has now been identified together with them having suggested ways of managing it. I have to say it was a big relief for all of us. Perhaps your mum might tell you soon. My mum admitted that she was terrified of telling us all if the news was bad. They seem to try to shield us from the scary things even as adults don't they even though we really aren't daft !..I hope she finds out what it is soon as the waiting doesn't help the worry.