Will I get my fanjo back or is this how it's going to be now?

[GotABadAssNow]

TMI to follow I'm afraid.

I had a second degree tear following an otherwise straightforward but very fast delivery 6 months ago. It was left unstitched - a couple of MWs later expressed a little surprise that it wasn't sutured, although I'm not in the least bit surprised because I was a touch ... er, combative when they tried to get a look at my shredded vag afterwards. Dear god the pain.

Anyway, 6 months on and sex is up and running again and although it's not as it was before it's all back together and no day-to-day pain. However, the back part of my fanjo - the perineal edge if you like - isn't soft, painless and stretchy now, and it feels like the give has all gone from it - presumably because it's all scar tissue. When DP enters me from behind I can't help but tense up because he's taller than me and I can feel it being stretched and it's not comfortable. It just feels all hard where it was once soft and squishy.

The question is ... am I being impatient? Will this all sort itself out in time? Will it be better when I am no longer BFing and relying on saliva for lube ? And if it won't get better, is there anything that can be done about it or would I be airing my poor well-trodden fanjo for no great gain if I took her to the GP?

Buy some proper lube for a start And then get thee to the GP, because if you have excess scar tissue then sometimes that can be sorted.

Er, can't answer your e3xact query, but, if it's any help, i had a 2nd tear, got stitched (they could have got a brickie in to do it i would have been oblivious ) and dh said (in chat aboput it, not in anyway unkind) it felp 'differnt' and sort of 'pulled up' where stictches were, so tears will probably change your fanjo...

and after i had dc i had to go to docs for a huuge pile, then a dodgy smear and get leetz treatment, so after dc have bared arse and fanjo... if it's not right, give it another airing for hopefully great gain

Thanks both.

The thing is, it's not massively painful, and some positions are ok (me on top for example - which I think is just because I'm in control and can relax a bit). It's just anything where he's behind me that's not good, either upright or spoons. Explaining that to the GP will be more than I can handle [blush} I think I'd have to draw diagrams then run home.

well, when i had to bare my volumous flabby arse i chose the oldest doctor at the surgery, my reasoning being he would have seen the most arses in his time!

do you have a variety ofd gps at your surgery that you can book an app with? eg, at ours, i would ither go to the young female level headed one, or the old sage sarky one who seems to have his head screwed on (he said to ds, one at the time as a pre op check up after ds had had a cold before op for a plum tht was too high up) 'oh, now come on littlevaryingdegress.. it's not me taht will be chopping at your bollocks on tuesday'! and i thought: yep, i think i can talk to you if i need to!

There is one youngish female GP who's been down there for various reasons in the past. There aren't any dinosaurs here, just dismissive middle aged men and young females. I don't give two hoots really if it means I can return to my usual vigour

go for it, at leat of you return to the same youngish female gp she can tell you have ongoing fanjo issues! Just march in and demand 'I wish my dh to take me from behind!' I'm sure that will have the desired effect!

Just say, look, if ou don't sort this and my fanjo isn't fxed, i'm only goinmg to be back here in 6 months with a wizard's sleeve to fix, which would you prefer?

what if she says the latter?! I'll muster some courage, thanks.