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Anyone with medical knowledge-emergency help needed

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hellymelly · 10/02/2011 22:07

Please if you are a medic read this thread and advise the OP.I am worreid sick that this man will die because he isn't getting any medical help. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/1146671-Dont-read-if-youre-eating

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hellymelly · 10/02/2011 22:10

bumping

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belledechocchipcookie · 10/02/2011 22:17

Have posted on there helly.

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hellymelly · 10/02/2011 22:24

Thankyou so much.I have been worrying all night about him.My husbands aunt died from septicaemia/gangrene and it was a truly dreadful death,the thought of someone going through that alone makes me want to cry.

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belledechocchipcookie · 10/02/2011 22:28
Sad The OP sounds like she doesn't know what to do and is panicking. I hope she's done something, he can be pissed at her when he's recovered.
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hellymelly · 10/02/2011 22:30

I really hope she's done something too-the thread was started last night, so more than 24 hours ago.

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belledechocchipcookie · 10/02/2011 22:32

Sad Poor bloke. Sounds like he's given up. Illnesses affect the elderly in different ways so he may not be fully aware of what he's saying.

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hellymelly · 10/02/2011 22:36

yes,my mother is roughly his age and was not in her right mind at all with a UTI,she tried to call a taxi and leave the hospital Sad and that's much more minor compared to what his body is dealing with. I hope he's getting help.

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belledechocchipcookie · 10/02/2011 22:38

Sad Fingers crossed for him.

coff33pot · 10/02/2011 22:55

That is one awful worrying post :(

The thing is no medic here can help as he needs to be actually treated.

All I would suggest is that she tells him point blank that she has phoned and ambulance and be harsh (to be kind) by saying she doesnt want his death on her concience. Lie and say that they have promised to treat him at home to start with. That at least would get them in the door to see what state he was in.

Then I am afraid it will be up to ambulance men to convince him to go to hospital. At least she would know she has done the right thing.

I think tho if he can still be that stubborn in that much pain that he knows it is bad and doesnt need telling so. And he knows he wont come out of hospital.

:(

realrabbit · 10/02/2011 23:16

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hellymelly · 10/02/2011 23:20

yes,realrabbit,that's what I feel,I'm getting really upset at the thought of this poor bloke,not getting seen.

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hellymelly · 10/02/2011 23:23

I was also in the position as a teenager,where a friend took an overdose,told me,and told me that I had to promise not to tell anyone.I told.She lived.None of us,young or old,make the best decisions for ourselves all the time.

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belledechocchipcookie · 10/02/2011 23:24

She needs to just call them to be honest.

coff33pot · 11/02/2011 00:04

Well I put a post there and this has totally messed with my head now. Whether it helps god knows but its all too close to home.

I hope she sees sense and dial that number and I got everything crossed for the poor man but wont be watching that thread anymore.

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hellymelly · 11/02/2011 00:11

has messed with my head too,I am worried that by trying to be assertive about getting him help I've upset the poster and made things worse.Didn't know how else to put it,am by nature blunt not tactful.But I did mean well,for her as well as him.Coff how bloody grim for you,I'm so sorry. that is truly a terrible situation for you to have been in.at least your uncle was loved,and knew it,and had love around him at the end Sad.

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coff33pot · 11/02/2011 00:27

still miss him now always will. Not something I talk about as still grieving I suppose. But it was the only thing I could think of putting instead of shouting DIAL!!

Thought if she knew the possible consequences that might just make her make the right decision. I really do feel for her but dread to think how she will handle finding him dead.

And as for you upsetting her I dont think you have. She has asked for help by posting and a lot of people have tried to prompt her in the right direction. She is probably now mind boggled on what to do and stressed in a very hard situation. And I could see you mean well as I am sure she can :)

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hellymelly · 11/02/2011 01:07

thanks for your kind words,especially as this is such a painful topic for you.My Mum is his age and really tricky at the best of times.She is the main carer for my Dad who is really unwell.I can imagine a situation like this arising with her,if she was childless etc.Certainly it was a lesson learned recently just how much a simple UTI can affect behaviour.She would have gone off in a taxi and tried to get my Dad out of his respite care home at 2 a.m. if she'd been allowed to.She was completely irrational and it took the ward sister some time to calm her down. I'm all for respecting the wishes of the individual,but there are times when you just have to overide them for everyone's best interests.

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