contraception that doesnt KILL sex drive?

[mummysmadhouse]

Im bfeeding and can only take minin pill the last one i was one was cerazette which killed my sexdrive its now returned after a very long holiday and im scared to try something that will do the same again and me a dh hate condoms

Cant have copper coil due to severe periods...would love to find a high drive pill

Condoms or a Diaphragm. That's about your lot I would say. I'm in a similiar position, so I know how you feel.

Mmm thats what i thought ...have you tried a diaphragm? I would imagine its better than a condom but still requires some pre empting

You would need to be pretty confident you were shortly to have sex with your dh for the diaphragm to be preferable to a condom - you wouldn't want to have to pop off to the bathroom to stick a diaphragm and spermicidal jelly inside you halfway through the action... Also, the diaphragm does need to be fitted properly (there are various sizes, and the size you need is likely to change if you change weight considerably, and following pregnancies), and a doctor or nurse who has hardly ever fitted one before will probably make a dreadful hash of it (in my experience...), so if you get one, go to a family planning clinic or somewhere where they actually do fit diaphragms for people on a regular basis and know what they are doing (and how to show you how to insert it properly). Oh, and they can increase a pre-existing tendency to cystitis in some people. Some people find them great, once they are used to them, for the reasons you set out (no hormones and no interruption of action halfway through, provided you planned your get-together a little bit in advance!). Oh, but do bear in mind also that some people are sensitive to the spermicide you need to use with them.

ok thanks condoms on a couple of occasions have resulted in no contraception very irresponsible i know, but my sex drive has reappeared suddenly and we were lost in the moment the fact that we are undecided on another baby at some point doesnt help!

Another Mnetter has told me about a pill called micronor which increased her SD tempted to try but cant face the thought of it having a negative effect on me!

Mirena coil
Implant
Depo-provera
A different POP such as Micronor or Femulen

You probably won't know how it affects your sex drive until you try it.

I'd recommend the diaphragm. Once you get used to it, it can be put in in moments. Yes, if things suddenly get started you DO have to pause, but you do that fairly early in the proceedings and then get stuck back in, which is better than fumbling for a condom at the crucial moment IMHO. And if you're not sure, you can always pop it in, with no harm done if you end up not needing it after all.

I've used it for years and have been really happy!

Mirena a no go too many horror stories and again, low sex drive stories!

Implant def not a firend of mine died of breast cancer only aged 23 was sooo she was told by medical staff that it either triggered or significantly spread her cancer...im sure you can understand its put me right off...although im aware most hormonal contraceptives can have effects on breast/pvarian cancers.

Again i havent spoken to one person who has been glad or happy with the depo

Now Micronor, someone on another thread was jsut singing its praises...said it saved her marriage and cerazette did the opposite (the pill i have previously tried)

Im very tempted to try the micronor just sooo nice for me and dh to be 'close' again dont want that to change after so long 3babies in 4yrs has ment a drout!! But maybe worth a go as its very hard to be 'close' with only condoms as an option atm

Thanks for advise

I never found any hormonal contraception that didn't affect my sex drive. Mind you, without it it's still not perfect - not at all interested for most of the month and obsessed for about a week! Fascinating to have such an accurate idea of when I ovulate, though...

But you can't base your own contraceptive choices on the experience of friends. Each woman needs to weigh up a preferred method based on her own lifestyle, sexual activity and medical and family history.

People are only too willing to share horror stories and yes, some people will of course try a method that doesn't suit them for whatever reason. But generally people are less forthcoming to share their experiences when positive.

I have lots of women that love depo and the implant and Cerazette and but also women that don't like it at all. Horses for courses! And you don't know how it will suit until you try it, often.

There's no harm in giving Micronor a go, but just because person X loved it doesn't mean you will too. Hope it helps you though

sidge very true although after researching and seeing that sooo many women have had similar experiences with cerazette its good to get some insight.

Me and DH have talked about the snip too as it prob isnt practical and more unlikelt than likely that we will have another baby but worried i we may regret it.

Will be glad when that time comes though so i can kiss goodbye to putting hormones into my body