Hi Naomi,
Sorry to hear about your dd's problems.
My ds had treatment (for a different condition - a v short leg) 2 years ago, and had his leg in a TSF, a differnt version of the Ilzarov frame, but still a fixator, with pins through the bone.
There is no doubt that it is daunting, but DS was 6 when he had his surgery and with help and advice it was fine.
Clothing wise, I got 10 pairs of pants and cut them down the side, then sewed velco on, as it is v hard to pull pants and trousers over the frame. (Actually I took them to the dry cleaner / minor repairs place down the road as velcor is a * to sew! )Otherwise we cut trousers (also velco-ed down the side) off at the knee, or mid thigh, above the frame. Lots of girls we saw in clinic wore long hippy / gypsy style skirts, and maybe legwarmers.
Pin cleaning is a chore, but you get trained to do it, and you can get supplies of all the sterile swabs and saline on prescription from your GP -or ask at the spciliast clinic you will attend. We found soaking DS's leg in salt water for a short time, and then showering before cleaning kept the scabs down, but differnt consultants have differnt views on cleaning - do what they advise.
You will need some help. Getting a wheelchair was one of the hardest things for us, but in the end the Physio service gave us one. Start asking about this EARLY. Before surgery. Also from our local authrity Occupational Therapy Dept we had a bench that fits over the bath which helped with bathing, and portable telescopic ramps to put up to our front door.
It is usually advised that as soon as possivble they walk on the frame as this encourages bone-growth, and ids are amazing at adapting to crutches, but you will have a period where you need a wheelchair.
You may want to contact your cuncil about getting a Blue Badge, too.
They will give lots of help with pain management. Aches and pains come and go, but it was controllable. DS was on a regie of about 4 differnt pain killers, but once tratment was established, he mainly only took them at night. In hospital ask to see the specialist pain management consultant.
You will almost certainly have a dedicated nurse in support throughout the treatment. Ours was wonderful - she gave us her mobile number so we could call her at any time if we needed immediate advice.
The STEPS website has a parents foru which has lots of peolple with experience of children with a fixator.
Which hospital will your dd be treated at?