Friend's DH diagnosed with cancer - how I can I help?

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My very good friend's husband has been diagnosed with cancer (testicular or prostate, I'm not sure). At the moment he's waiting for more test results so not undergoing any treatment.

We don't live very near, but obviously I want to do what I can to help. What could I send through the post that would be appreciated/useful/helpful?

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Anyone?

I'd say at the moment, while he's waiting fr his results, just a letter to say you are thinking of them.

If he has surgery and/or chemo he might like some books, audiobooks, dvd's, cds, magazines etc. to occupy him while he's convalescing or having his chemo (it takes a while and can get boring there's often a lot of waiting around).

But while they are waiting I'm sure they will really appreciate the fact that you have them in mind, - you tend to feel a bit overwhelmed with everything thats going on to start with - and just knowing that she can ring you for a chat or a shoulder to cry on will help.

Thanks, Kurri - I feel a bit helpless, I suppose. They are such lovely people and my friend has already been through her mum and dad both having cancer (and both beating it, glad to say). Their DCs don't know at the moment so I don't want to send anything that could be read by them.

I think just being able to talk to someone is enough. My late dh had cancer and I ended up pretty isolated because people just shunned us . It is a very isolating illness and they'll be feeling very frightened and stressed.

Just let her know you'll be there for her and that she can phone anytime, even if it's just to rant/cry. Having cancer is a rollercoaster ride.

Thanks, Hens, but sorry to hear about your DH. Just the word cancer induces fear and I guess it's not always the easiest thing to face those fears.

I'll do my best to let her know I'm there for her.