Anxiety and frustration. Please help

[MuddledMe]

I have a wonderful husband who I totally adore and who is a good, good man. I have two adorable kids of 3 and 10 months and in general I think I appear to be a happy confident person. Behind closed doors though I think I'm a bit of a nightmare to live with. I have terrible mood swings and cope really badly with situations of high anxiety. I get frustrated alot with even the most mundane things and my wonderful, patient, loving husband gets the blame for pretty much all of it. I snap and get wound up with silly things and what upsets me most is that often, when I'm really stressed or anxious, I don't think I'm very nice in the way I talk to him. The two weeks before my period are the worst and it's making me so sad. I want to change because I don't want this to start chipping away at my relationship (and I think it does). Have any of you been through anything similar and if so what helped? I saw my GP and a counsellor in the past when my eldest son was sick but I'm not sure I bonded particularly well with the counsellor so I'm not inclined to return there. I'm not against seeing someone but equally I'd love to know if there are techniques I could use, books I could read or holistic remedies I could take that might control my stress and anxiety and stop those emotions coming out as frustration and anger. I do think PMT makes me worse and this has definitely been more acute since having the kids. Please help if you can... He is a good man and we are a great family. I just don't want to keep making us both sad. I'm not sure if this is the right place to
Post - if not please send me in the right direction x

bumping for you.
sorry have to be feeling like this hoping someone out there has the time to offer what helped them. I'm struggling too at times you are not alone.

You sound a lot like I used to be.

Last year I was diagnosed with mild depression and anxiety which usually got worse around my period. I was given ADs and offered CBT sessions for my anxiety.

I'm now only on a low dose of AD, but find that even this low dose seems to help even out my moods. I find I don't get as wound up as I used to. Until I saw my doctor and got treatment, I didn't realise how bad things were. I used to feel sad/angry most of the time.

I also take Vitamin B6 which I think helps with the PMT aswell. See if you can have another chat with your doctor. There is help out there.

It might also be worth posting this on the mental health board as there are plenty of people on there going through similar feelings who can offer their support.

Earlier this year I was feeling very stressed and anxious, and like you, I don't think I was very nice to live with. I rang a team of counsellors through work and one thing she suggested was visualisation, and she pointed me towards the spirits evolving website. Then someone on here suggested living life to the full (another website). I have no idea how to do links so will fail on that bit, but hopefully you'll find them and they may have something useful.