Boys foreskins

[sparklymieow]

DS is 7 and we have never pulled his foreskin back. I thought he should start washing himslef there but the foreskin won't go back, should it go back easily??

He only has a hole about 1mm..... should I go to the GPs??

why are you trying to pull it back?

I never bothered with my boys - I left it to them!

Having said that when ds1 was about 2 the GP pulled it right back and he had the screaming abdabs - GP said it was a bit tight but he seems ok now (he's 31! )

it should go back easily, so if hes having trouble pulling it back, tell him not to try as that can be very unpleasent if it then gets stuck, best to leave them alone when they are very little, but i think at about this age, if its not going back properly, a gp may consider referring him for medical circumcism, pop along to your gp with him if you are worried.

I thought you had to, won't it get yucky under there if you don't???

He had a few infections when he was younger too, and we couldn't get a cotton buds up there to put the cream, like the GP told us to do.

My DS is the same age. A friend told me that her DS was 7 when they told him he had to start washing under his foreskin (the conversation arose as I had told her that I asked DS if his willy was sore as he can't keep his hands out of his pant, she said that he would be prone to infections if he didn't start cleaning properly) anyway we haven't. But she said that her DS found it really uncomfortable at first and it took him a while to be able to wash it properly. (which is what has put me off having to tell DS to wash his.

not when they are really young, but obviously its nice to keep it clean when they are older.

cotton buds

no, leave it alone !

Found it!!!

I know, I tried once, and never again!! GP told me to use cotton buds.
So I should leave it alone and hope it loosen off as he get bigger then.

i wouldnt try and pull it back yourself, no, when ds feels confident washing himself down there, if it still wont go back, go to gp.

I feel wrong telling him to do it too, i have no problem with the human body, but I don't want to touch it, and hurt him, so I got him to do it and it won't even go back...

I wouldn't touch it - I'm going off what dh tells me, no need to fiddle!

He is always playing with it, and he washes himself, and he knows to wash there well, but sometimes when he pees, a cloudly liquid comes out first and I am worried about infections

I don't want to over-worry you, but it may be worth speaking to the gp to get their take on it.

I had a boyfriend once who had never pulled his foreskin back (didn't realise he needed to and neither did his mother) - it was only when we embarked on a sexual relationship (he was a virgin) that he realised that it was a problem. He then had to go through the humiliation of visiting his gp who made lots of rugby jokes before referring him for a circumcision. As well as the humiliation he felt (his dad was a gp, fgs!), he had to make up loads of excuses for being in hospital, and suffered a great deal of pain at the time too. He felt pretty angry at having to go through all that at the age of 18.

There was a lad who had to have that done when we were about 14, he was so embarrassed. I think I will go to the GP and see what he says about it, if its not a problem, then great but if DS needs a small op, I would rather it was now and not when he is teenager

a lad from school.

I don't rememeber that. WHO?

lol!! SM, he was in the top form, and he was one of the brainy one..

I have no experience in this area, but have heard of this site: Norm-UK

Their aim is stated as: "To advance the education of the public in all matters relating to circumcision and other forms of surgical alteration of the genitals, including alternative treatments and offering information and advice on such matters."

DP was circumsised when he was 28, and he said it was horrendous, mainly from a pride pov, so it might be worth getting it checked, just to put your mind at rest

My DS is 8 and his foreskin has only become retractable recently. I did spend a lot of time worrying about it and imagining him needing an embarrassing op as a teenager but it has sorted itself. DS2?s foreskin seems to have an even smailler opening and is not yet retractable (he is only 3) but I will try not to worry until he is older.

Sparkly, would you take DS to the GP of simply ask him yourselfÉ

Wondering if and when boys foreskins can and should be retracted is a common worry. The problem is they all develop at different stages. Some retract when their babies and some, like my friend's DH, still can't do it when they are adults!

I was influenced by the fact that my DH is circumcised and after a lot of discussion with our doctor, who was against it, we eventually decided to get our two sons done privately. They seem fine with it and I'm happy knowing they will never have any retraction and cleaning concerns