Why am I always ill at the moment

[purplearmadillo]

Sorry because i think this might be a long, I feel so ill all the time at the moment and I don't know what's wrong with me and I am frightened and sad.

I've got tonsillitis at the moment. Its the third time in a month, and every time its completely knocked me for 6, I can't eat sleep, play with DCS. DH is away and tonight I just sat on the floor and cried because I felt so bad. DD has been so sweet and she's only 5, but I just feel miserable. I feel like I am letting her and DS down. I apologised to her tonight and she said she would hope all night that I would be better tomorrow.

As well as the tonsillitis, I also had a cough cold thing in the middle. I'm also signed off work with what I thought was work stress because I got into work one day and just cried and cried, but now I think its just exhaustion.

Does anyone know why this might be happening to me? Doctor is testing for glandular fever but ABs seem to help so I don't think it can be that. If there is nothing actually wrong, I will have to go back to work, but at the moment, every time I have a day where I feel ok and do stuff, I am immediately shattered and sick again.

i am not a doctor BUT i do know that whatever is wrong, you need some support to help with the children and to look after you. is there anyone who can help out?

DH is back on Tuesday, my parents are coming tomorrow and my mum was here until lunchtime. Its a bit pathetic I know, I just really feel I need to have some time to rest and I never get it.

poor you - sounds like hard work. make the most of your parents - that's what they're for (-:
your daughter sounds lovely

I slept for 10 hours last night and still woke up feeling exhausted. Managed to make DCs breakfast and I am now sitting down trying to find the energy to get dressed.

Anyone have any ideas as to whether there could be something underlying this. I really hope there is something that can be fixed.

Hi,

I'm going through exactly the same as you at the moment. I had a bout of tonsilitis 8 months ago, and now I catch every bug going, with the tonsilitis flaring up every 4 weeks like clockwork. I'm so tired i can barely talk some days, and I also get achy joints. If I do anything physical, it takes me 3 days to recover from it - the tiredness, illness and feeling of being in a fog just doesn't go. And on top of this I have a 3 year old DD to care for.

My Doc has given me repeats of ABs, tested for glandular fever, arthritis, thyroid etc etc etc....pretty much everything. Even referred me to the hospital for further checks.

The only conclusion they can come to is that I may have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS, or better known as ME) brought on my my initial tonsilitis. I'm having to wait for a formal diagnosis of this condition as they apparently have to see how long I feel crappy for...needs to be over 6months I believe. Well, I've now been feeling like this for 8 months and they're still reluctant to bloody well tell me this is what I have.

You may want to discuss this with your GP too, there's some useful info on the ME assoc website. Sorry I dont have the link but they should be pretty easy to google.

Hope you get better soon as its awful!

God, Larakitten, that sounds just exactly how I feel. Does your doctor think you can get CFS after tonsillitis?

I know its not been going on as long as you, but the thing about doing anything and then getting ill/exhausted is exactly like me. I find I'm ok for one day, so I do something like tidy my house, or go out somewhere with DD and DS, and then the next day I am so tired I can't move.

I've been off work for 5 weeks but I'm so frightened about the doctor stopping signing me off because I cannot possibly see how I can manage with work and the DCs.

How are you coping with looking after your DD? I feel like I'm being a crap parent, tonight I couldn't even muster the energy to give DD and DS a bath, they've been in front of the TV all day.