Bloody sex

[OnceUponA]

After sex I get a really sore perineum. It is so painful it makes me not want to have sex again, or not able to. This happens every time.

Anyone know what the problem could be? I am so fed up.

Have you had stitches post partum which has secured your perineum too far forward?

Oh no nothing like that. I can't think what it could be caused by and googling doesn't come up with many answers.

If you're using condoms, might it be a latex allergy? Have you tried using lubrication?

Didn;t even think of a latex allergy. Will look into that, thanks.

Have used lubrication since the problem started but it doesn't make a difference.

Piles? They can be rubbed by sex if they are around the perineum.

Don't think I have piles, and it is higher up than that, nearer the vagina.

Anyone else? A visit to the GP would be in order, unfortunately I have just moved abroad and not sure how it works here yet. Also don't fancy having to try to explain this in a different language.

Ah yes but vulva varicosities (which are the same as piles - sorry) do come right the way up to the front - and by the way are v easy to treat with proctosedyl (from GP).

Bloody hell never heard of that! Thanks, might have to venture to docs.

Don't google it if you are eating

I already made that mistake, blardy hell! From looking down below it doesn't look like that (or could be caused by that?) it's more like ttiny cuts, like paper cuts.

At the risk of sounding stupid, could it be that you have sensitive skin there and a bit of action sets it right off, so maybe keeping it moisturised with E45 or some other compatible cream might reduce the irritation?

I had a friend who used to have some sort of allergic reaction to sperm - yes it irritated her skin elsewhere too.

It stopped immediately when she became a lesbian. Not that I am offering this as a solution.

maybe that is the answer gay40!

I was thinking that, I put a bit of sudocrem on the area and it felt a lot more soothed. Maybe it is just sensitive skin. I heard it is poss to get ezcema on the vulva too and I do have ezcema elsewhere on my body so maybe that is a possibility?

Allergy does sound likely if it's little cuts. Or are you perhaps having sex with a tiger who has a barbed penis?

DP did say it must be because he has an extra large penis.

Yes it's definitely that dear....

Ok, this is going to sound weird, especially as I suggested latex allergy earlier... could you be allergic to your DP's semen? My DSis married, and had a dc with, her ex, and only then had similar issues, and yes, she'd become sensitive to him! There were other issues and they divorced, she then went on to have more Dc with a second DH, and no recurrence.

So, if you're using latex condoms, try non-latex (or other methods). If you're not using condoms, maybe it's him?

Don't know how you'd solve that one, though; maybe using condoms?

Sorry, probably not v. helpful. :(

No that is helpful- very helpful actually.
Going to sort this one out by trial and error. It makes sense to be some sort of allergy since my skin everywhere else on my body is so sensitive.