Rectocele/vaginal issues advice

[Bobbito]

Hi, this is my first time posting and might be a little long so bear with me.

I have two boys aged 5 and 6 months. I had a long labour with the first he was 7lbs and I ended up with a second degree tear.

With my second, the labour was very quick he was 9lbs and I once again had a second degree tear. I recovered a lot quicker this time around but have suffered a few problems.

Firstly, this is hard for me to write but after having my second my vagina doesn't feel anything like the same. In other words its HUGE, I have little sensation when having sex and there has been no improvement despite religiously doing pelvic exercises everyday for the past 6 months.

Secondly about two months ago I noticed when I had a bowel movement there was a bulging into my vagina. It seemed to come on very suddenly but now I have a lot of difficulty going.

I made an appointment with the doctor and I'm now awaiting a referrel to a gynecologist - but what is worrying me is that the doctor basically said there is little that they can offer and that this is all basically a side effect of having children. I'm now worried I'm going to have to live like this for the rest of my life (I'm 25).
So is there anyone out there who has had a rectocele or similar treated that can tell me what kind of things they do offer, and how severe things needs to be before they will do anything?
Any advice appreciated!

There are a few options - physio is one, or an insert to hold things together (I think that tends to be used by much older women though) and also surgery.

I had surgery about 5 years ago, but have a horrible feeling that I might need to have it repeated at some stage (things seem to be drooping again ) They won't do surgery until you've finished having children - giving birth would just undo it all, but tnh it makes more sense to go through the physio route first.

i have this. i have no opinion to give re surgery, but i know that i and a lot of people who have minor rectoceles simply find that holding a wad of tissue paper against yourself while trying to poo makes it much much easier to go. personally i'm going to stick to this option until i can no longer reach!

Thanks for replying ladies. LovelyJudy I've tried the splinting method but it doesn't really help me, the only thing which has been any use is being lactose intolerant and drinking plenty of milk etc! The GP who examined me did say that although she could feel it she didn't think it was that severe though. But I really am struggling with it, plus lots of aching etc down below.

Serenity - sorry to hear that :(
Glad physio is an option and I hope its offered to me at least. I guess I should of posted my questions in the bigger thread I only just saw (doh!) But may I ask how you came to be offered surgery? Do they offer it only if its really bad as a last resort or do you have to ask?

To be honest I would've liked to have more children, but I'm so frightened of any other or worse complications, I doubt very much I will.

I do same as LovelyJudy.