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anyone had their tubes tied

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piratecat · 14/09/2010 15:54

Just looking into contraception, and seeing how many problems it can cause, being unable to tolerate pills, having a bad time with mirenas, and heavy periods with the coil. Just a general ask really.

I am 41, and not able to have anymore, nor do i want anymore.

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BelleDameSansMerci · 14/09/2010 21:33

bump

Having this done in November and would be interested in hearing from others too...

piratecat · 15/09/2010 07:29

oh thanks Belle, do you mind my asking what made you decide to go down this route?

I know very little about it, the whys, etc... Reading loys of confliciting stuff online about gps saying nope you must try all the contraception type first. To some women haivng to pay for it privatley, to some women who have had it doen very young.

I'd like to know more.

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BelleDameSansMerci · 15/09/2010 07:53

Rather a long winded response but I wanted to explain my experience/reasoning.

I'm 45 and I have one child (3). I definitely don't want any more. I didn't plan my DD (although I wouldn't change anything) and I am far too old to be considering nay more!

I think, from your OP, that we've probably had similar problems with contraception. I can't take the combined pill - it makes me have migraines that have stroke-like symptoms and with both the mini-pill and Mirena coil I bleed almost constantly so they're out too (not to mention getting quite plump on Mirena). I've refused to try the implant or injection as I wouldn't be able to get the drugs out of my system quickly if they give me the same symptoms as combined pill(which seems likely).

I went to see my GP and was immediately referred to a consultant. Obviously, didn't actually see him/her but saw one the minions. He did attempt to suggest that Mirena was the way to go but I explained otherwise (my GP had warned me this would be necessary). He pretty much immediately agreed that I could have the op. I did do the charmingly reasonable but clearly not taking "no" for an answer routine though.

I then had received a date for the op which was only a few weeks away and an pre-operation appointment. I went to that appointment and rearranged the date for the op as it was a bit too quick for me - I wanted a little longer to be certain. Had a chat with the nurse etc and am now booked in for November.

I saw some stories/anecdotes online where people had had unexplained severe pain afterwards and there is no way that the NHS will reverse the operation. This worried me. When I spoke to the nurse about it, she said she'd never seen anyone with these symptoms following sterilization but she had heard of this following other operations. It seems to be a potential effect of surgery in general rather than just this particular operation.

I have decided to go ahead although part of that decision is based on the fact that, apart from contraception, I am medically very dull. I don't generally have complications or difficulties with anything and so am assuming this will be the same (not really a scientific basis).

I am nervous about it and I have some concerns about whether it will affect me psychologically ie feel less feminine or something.

Also, my GP told me that some patients report more period pain/mood swings etc after having the op but, in her experience, those women were previously on combined pill or Mirena and so had hormonal influence. She thinks that the changes may be due to them no longer having the hormonal influence from the contraception rather than the operation. Again, this is anecdotal and not scientific, etc.

Finally, should say that I am in West Yorkshire so not sure if that helps re Health Authority and likely decision, etc.

piratecat · 15/09/2010 11:07

thanks for sharing Belle.

I just suddenly thought yesterday, it may be a route I should go down.

I am having problems with the mini pill, and the Mirena does not appeal to me one bit becuase of the hormone thing too. If i started to get breakthrough bleeds on it I feel i'd be trapped with it.At least wil the minin pill I can stop it immediately. I have very sensitive skin down there, and the constant bleeding irritates me. I also don't get on with any type of condom. I am concerend that having this op will make my periods worse though, so that is a consideration. The pill evens out my hormones, and as an SPD sufferer it is great to not have the hormone rush, as it does make my spd worse.

Too old for the combined pill now, plus i am an occasional smoker.

Are you having a GA, or a local. What will the procedure be for you?

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BelleDameSansMerci · 15/09/2010 19:20

I'm having a GA - it's the only option with my Health Authority. It's going to be a laparoscopy and then two small incisions either side to get to the tubes; these are then "clipped" and returned. I have visions of crocodile clips in my head but I'm told the clips are very small. I will need to take a week or so off work but they're quite understanding (thank goodness) and I believe that it will be quite painful for the following day or so. They have to pump up your tummy with gas, etc, and that's what's uncomfortable, apparently. Sounds great Hmm

This is not really an ideal solution for me but I feel like it's the only one. I'm quite sensitve there too and condoms/spermicide irritates me. I've been using a diaphragm/cap but, again, the spermicide irritates plus I am susceptible to cystitis and that's been worse with the cap. Sometimes I think abstinence would be the best option!

piratecat · 15/09/2010 19:51

Oh i am practically celibate Belle, not in any relationship!

I have read about the gas being painful, prob the most uncomfy part yes. I was looking and there are these twisty things they sometimess use called Essure?

I hope it goes well for you. x

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orangeflutie · 15/09/2010 21:05

Hi piratecat I'm 42 and had my tubes clipped in April this year. I had it done under GA with a laproscope and have two small incisions, one by my navel and one by my bikini line.

I was a bit battered and bruised for about a week or so afterwards, however my recovery time may have been slightly longer as I had endometrial ablation at the same time.

I really recommend it.

piratecat · 15/09/2010 21:23

orangeflutie glad it worked out for you.

are your periods any worse now?

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borderslass · 15/09/2010 21:27

I had it done when dd2 was 8 weeks old and for 6 months my cycle was the most normal it had ever been, unfortunately I developed fibroids and had a hysterectomy at 30.
Beware I was in agony from the gas afterwards.

piratecat · 15/09/2010 21:30

oh no, poor thing. Sorry you had to have that.

I already have fibroids, as shown on a scan many yrs ago, when investigating my infertility. I don't think they are the type that give any bother tho iyswim. Doc at the time said most women have some?

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borderslass · 15/09/2010 21:34

don't worry about it, it was 10 years ago never looked back.

BelleDameSansMerci · 15/09/2010 21:49

There is a new procedure called Adiana which is available in some parts of the UK (not where I live) which does not involve surgery. Details are here. I believe it's available in Chelmsford. I did think about pushing for this but I didn't when it came to it.

orangeflutie · 15/09/2010 22:05

My periods used to be really heavy and often went on for two weeks but now due to the endometrial ablation they're much lighter and shorter.

I don't know if being sterilized makes any difference to periods. All I know is that when my gynaecologist went in with the laprosope, he found a cyst on my left ovary and endometriosis which he removed.

I was asked if I'd like my tubes clipped prior to endometrial ablation as the procedure still leaves you fertile but with nowhere for a baby to attach.

I feel much happier generally as I've never been able to find contraception that worked for me and my problem periods are gone.

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