steralisation

[mumtosomeone]

thinking about it...any advice

I doubt the GP can tell you much, but they can get you on the waiting list (about 18 months in our area). And they will refer you to the consultant. The strategy now is to give everyone a relatively early screening appointment; the consultant will then explain to you how they do it, press you hard about whether you want sterilisation, why you want it, and be able to answer questions from you satisfactorily. If you don't want the procedure after this first appt., you get off their waiting lists sooner. If you aren't sure, You can still stay on the waiting list while you make up your mind.

Would be worth talking through with a GP I think.

You sound in a similar boat to me - my dh is too young to have the snip and I don't want him to. However, we really don't want more children and I worry every month about accidents. He's not too keen on me having an operation that's not necessary either (expat - he certainly hasn't tried to cajole me, quite the opposite).

Finding it difficult to take the final step and take in the signed consent form.

Have to say that no-one pressed me hard as to why I wanted it. Just said "oh right then" and booked me in! This is not how it should be done but as I have medical background wasn't a problem for me personally. They should make sure you are both happy with the decision before going any further. Also I didn't have to wait long - about 3 months.

We went the snip way. I've had two c-sections and dh didn't want me to go on with the pill. After three years of me saying "when" he finally went and had it done about 6 mths ago. I can't personally see any reason to chose an alternative (with the exception of hmb - there may of course be many others!), as it's so much simpler, quicker and less painful (especially for me!) If you are both sure you don't want any more children then I'm not sure why you should have to have what is not exactly a minor procedure. If you are hesitating, then I would go for one of the medium term options like an implant or a coil, because you may not really be ready to say never. Not sure why age is relevent if you are both sure about it - my dh was 34, with many potential childrearing years ahead of him. However what really matters for you deciding on a sterilisation is whether you are absolutely sure that you never want to be pregnant again.

my dh is 28 and Idont think it is fair to ask him! Who knows what the future holds for us and I wouldnt have another baby in 10 years time,but he still could!

Hi everybody
quick question - but where do the eggs go if they can't go down the tied fallopian tubes? Also, does sterilisation bring on any menopausal symptoms? I too am considering this, an 11 weeks pregnant with our third child and after it is born never want to be pregnant again (I am 36).

Thats a good question!! Do they just die?

There is no known link between sterilization and the menopause. There is a link in hysterectomy where the ovaries are left in place....if you measure hormones in such women they fall sooner than woment without a hysterectomy....no-one realy knows why.

The eggs just dieand are then mopped up by the bidies immune system like all cells that die

Did you know that they are the largest cells in the human body?

Thanks. But surely there must be some effect psychologically - like you wouldn't get that surge in libido that you normally get around ovulation time? I wonder whether sex would be different without the possibility of getting pregnant - like you wouldn't anymore be interested in it (sex I mean). Anyway, things between dh and I are not great at the moment so the issue is not sterilisation but whether we are even going to touch each other again. I just told him how tired I was (due to being 11 weeks pregnant and looking after 2 small kids) and he told me what I needed was a gym. MEN.

Well, if the surge is linked to your changing hormones then you would get the same change in sexual feelings. Remember that being sterilised doesn't affect your hormones, or the production of the egg. It just stops the egg getting into the fallopian tube where it can be fertilised.

Re the not being able to get pg= reduced libido, then that would be true of every effective form of contraception!

Another warning is that no form of contracptive if 100%, not even sterilization of men or women.

Oh , re the psychological thing, well it had no effect on me at all. I was just glad not to have to rely on other forms of contraception.

My MIL was very upset when she was sterilised, but she was far younger than I was when I was 'done', and possiby that had an effect.

You should only consider sterilisation if you never, ever, ever want kids in the future....that being the case the psychological ev=ffect should be very small, as I said it had no effect on me.

But if you have dounbts or worries don't go for it, the Merina coil is more effective than female sterilisation and is not permanent

hiya i had this done 3 months after twins were born- i also have another son.

BEST thing ever dh also got the snip just to be safe. I was 28 at the time and 1 yr on have not long had a hysterectomy and feeling FAB!!!!!!

I am worried it will make me feel less of a women!

I fell MORE a woman than ever

I just worry that I would feel that I am unable to concieve therefore not a toatl women..dont know!! This is how I felt after my m/c..that I had failed as a women therefore unattractive..etc!

As mentioned earlier in this thread I am a believer in female sterilisation!

I knew I should not become pregnant again due to antibody problems. We had 4 children - I would have had more if I could. I knew if DH went for the snip I would have 'accidentally' got myself pregnant while waiting for the sperm to clear.

IMO, women come to a natural end for fertility - men do not. I felt I should get sterilised because after a certain age I would not be able to have babies anyway. I would not want something to happen to me and my DH not able to have a family with someone else should he wish. I was struck by a couple I met as a midwife years ago. The DH 1st wife died from a brain haemorrhage. He had had a vasectomy but met a younger woman who he married. They wanted wanted a family together. He fortunately had his vasectomy reversed but that rarely works.

For a woman, sterilisation is instant. Only one tiny egg needs reabsorbed each month. I have had no adverse effect on my libido. Men who have vasectomies have millions of sperm to reabsorb (practically daily). There are some who believe that all that sperm reabsorption leads to premature aging because of a triggered autoimmune response.

Op is done as a day patient. Have no regrets at all. Am always broody so it is a good job I can't have any more.

Mears - thanks for that, has certainly made me feel more positive about it! I agree entirely that my dh might still need to have more children if I were to die and he remarried, while the same just doesn't hold true for me (but that's a hard one to convince others of - when people insist that it should be a vasectomy instead).

hi, i'm looking for a bit of advise, i was steralized on thurs, since then i have looked 3 months preggers and had quite alot of pain (shooting pain in tum and bottom!) is this normal ?????

hi all,
found this site while searching for advice about steralisation.im after a little bit of advice if anyone can give me their thoughts on the subject.
basically im 24yrs old and have 3 children a 3yr old son and twins that are 1yrs old on new years day(boys also).
i had an exteamly difficult pregnancy with the twins.at 31 weeks i had an operation on my kidney as it had swelled to three times the usual size and had to be drained immediately.three days later the twins were born and were doing great.but as a result of the pregnancy my tube to the kidney was damaged now doctors are advising me on steralisation as another preganacy could result in the tube tearing and killing both me and the baby.since having the twins my menstural cycle has been all over the place and im worried every month i could be pregnant.i am seriously considering steralisation as i feel my family is complete and my partner of eight years agrees.i have now been on the contraceptive pill nearly eight years and need to come off it eventually due to potential risks of breast cancer.however in my head now i know i dont want anymore children.but i dont know how i would feel after i have it done.i dont want to risk my children growing up without a mother if i was to get pregnant and the worst happened.but i also dont think i can cope with the fact i will never be able to have any more children. can someone please give me some advice on what to do as i am seriously confused i know what to do for the best but i am fed of people sayin i will regret having it done.

considering avin it done, but need 2 no do you gain weight wif this as u can do wif other forms of contraceptives. appointment just round da corner. have problem wif weight gain due 2 contraceptives. please advise.

No you shouldn't gain weight after been sterilised. I didn't anyway and can't think of any hormonal reason why you would.