I'm being ridiculous, please talk me out of having another baby

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My youngest is going to school
I have namechanged
I really really really want another
After loads (I mean loads) of mcs I really can't have another, but it doesn't make it all go away. I had my last dc almost a month early and had pre-eclampsia and pph. Another would quite possibly do me a lot of harm. But it doesn't stop me really wishing I could. Very sad about this tonight, no idea why :(

not sure what to say really! How many do you have?

three.
So four isn't so many. Thank you for the reply corndrinksgin

Oh, it's hard, isn't it? Especially with a milestone like the youngest going to school.

But the risks to your health are pretty huge. It wouldn't do anyone any favours to lose you, remember.

I think the key here - do you have daughters? - is to talk yours into early parenthood.

I have 2. Would have liked another one but never got round to it.The broody urge to have another one does lessen as you get older I think.

I thought it had gone, I think the pure fear has stuck with me for the past 4 years. Now it's starting to fade a bit the silly broodiness has re-appeared :(

Spot on though, both of you - the land mark thing is more than likely what has set me off on this silly path. I know precisely how dangerous it would be, and I could not handle another m/c, which is the other thing that stops me. My last mc was last year and that really should have taught me (but I am still too stupid, obviously)

It's not stupid or silly at all - it's natural that you feel as you do. Bloody mother nature!

Agree with the "bloody mother nature" comment!!
Sorry I'm going on here, but there's nowhere I can say this in RL. I know the risks so why can't I get it into my thick brain? It's one of those heart/head things. The battle really does drag me down though.

No, it's fine. I hope you weren't offended by me joking about early grandparenthood.

I haven't finished having children (as far as I know, obviously), but thinking about that period of my life coming to an end already makes me sad. I think about, well, maybe I can foster after I am too old to have my own?

And the battle with nature is so hard. Especially if you've got three, so you know that you've "managed it before", I guess.

I finished at 2 dcs. I would have liked more, but other things got in the way, our ages played a part, but the other reasons were more life-threatening. I did grieve a bit that it was the end of my reproductive life. Some friends have had their chances of becoming a parent shot from under their feet. I think we all want a bit of what we don't have, and sometimes we can't see the wood for the trees and realise what we do have.

If your health is in jeopardy if you concieve again, what would you leave for your children? Would you still be able to look after them? Would you still be able to maintain your relationships? Would you still be mobile?

Is another pregnancy and another child a risk worth taking? Nothing in life is certain and a risk is just a risk, not a certainty.