My vagina 20 months after forceps delivery - tmi?

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It looks a bit different to what I remember.
We are thinking about trying for number 2 but am wondering if something is amiss.
There is something I can see in the opening alongside the vaginal wall (I don't know the correct terms...)
I suppose I am wondering if I have had some degree of prolapse - birth of ds all got a bit full on and dr tried to manually turn him then ventouse snapped and he was finally delivered by forceps.
If there is a prolapse is it still possible to conceive?
We haven't had sex since I had ds so dh has no opinion to offer.
TIA

you need to be examined properly m'love.

get thee to your doc... even if it is a prolapse, they can give you options to treat it.

i had forceps with both of mine and after DD2 there was definate sagging but apparently not a prolapse. GP said it would be a case of waiting for the elasticity to return. it seems fine now, 2.5 years later.

why no boffing since baby by the way

oh just so never any time.
Probably a long story when I try to think of why.
I probably had untreated pnd and some issues to do with the birth.
Dh had some depression for which he has had some counselling for.
Big house move around the time ds was 6 mo.

We are the best of mates, extremely in love and kind to each other just have been tired and... the rest!

Thanks so much for your reply. I will get meself to the docs!

Yup - to the Dr's you go.

It might be a bit of a prolapse, or it might be vaginal wall that has relaxed, and therefore is more visable.

I had 2 unassisted deliveries, no tears or troubles etc, and my bits feel like they mght flop out at any gven moment

The absolute bottom line is 1000000 pelvic floor workouts a day, and weight loss seems to help me too. Having core stability also puts less pressure on the pelvic ligaments, which in turn means they can focus on your pelvic floor...it's all interconnected.

We can also be..er...more dry following children. Which can impact on desire [imo]. Something to think about maybe.

i understand, it's hard after babies, even without PND. i had pretty hardcore births both ending in forceps and DD2 needed full resuscitation so i also get how, mentally AND physically, it takes time to get over it... have you thought about counselling for yourself? i think talking to a neutral person is a fantastic way of purging things that can interfere in keeping a relationship physically intimate.

oh my DH has depression too and it's so difficult- for the person and their partner.

Hello

I had the exact thing after my forceps delivery, also twisting baby etc. It is the vaginal wall which is relaxed and needs strengthening up with pelvic floor exercises. I was sure I had a prolapse but after being examined by 3 consultants who said not it did put my mind to rest. Mine sometimes gets worse when my period is due and feels like it's going to fall out. A good way to remember to do your exercises is everytime you boil the kettle do them or everytime you are in the car and stop at traffic lights.

I asked my doctor about sex with this and she said that it actually helps because it pushes it back where it should be if you know what I mean. So don't feel frightened.

I was referred to a gynae physiotherapist who was fantastic at explaining how to exercise properly.

Thanks all so much for taking to time to reply - it has really helped!

Have made an appointment at the drs for Tuesday so we shall see.

Have started to do my Pelvic floors again(I was a bit rubbish after the birth)Thanks for the advice on remembering to do them herecomesthesun

blinks So sorry you experienced such difficult births.
It was very hard when dh was depressed - I definitely have felt much better since he got better. I think I would benefit from counselling but was put off when the dr didn't seem to take me seriously and I didn't want to go through that initial 'I think I'm depressed' conversation. I think I'm through the worst of it now.