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Getting dh a vasectomy

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snipsnap · 26/08/2005 14:33

Since dd was born dh has been promising to have a vasectomy but hasn't got around to it. He's now asked me to find out how he goes about getting one and I don't know!

Is it available on the NHS, and can the GP refer him? Do we have to go to a vasectomy clinic and pay? What's the first port of call?

I'm not a troll, btw, I'm a regular poster but I feel really stupid at having to ask the question.

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Distel · 26/08/2005 14:36

My dh is on the waiting list to have one. You will both have to go to the doctors as you have to sign a consent form as well as him. Waiting list is about 6 montyhs on average I think.

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snipsnap · 26/08/2005 14:39

I have to sign a consent form as well? Crikey, I hadn't banked on that one! But if we both go to the GP and sign the forms then the GP can do the referring?

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Jimjams · 26/08/2005 15:00

dh went to the GPs and is on the list. We both have to go along on the day- have some counselling and then the deed is done. Hee hee.

Fio2 · 26/08/2005 15:02

my friends husband went and they did his within about 2 months at the surgery mind you he is almost 50 with 2 young kids and one grown up one, not sure if that makes any difference

nailpolish · 26/08/2005 15:04

LOL at you 'getting dh' a vasectomy

my friend and her dh went to the gp's to speak about having a vasectomy (well him)

their gp told them to go away for 6 months and then if they are still sure come back (they were actually a bit annoyed about that, as if they dont know what the both want sort of thing)

so they went back and said "yes we are sure" then they had to sign consent forms and have a counselling session, they still havent had the go ahead

i think maybe her gp has had a lot of regrets in his practice or something!

anyway

they are looking into private, and im sure she mentioned to me it was £200

gscrym · 26/08/2005 15:07

DH got put on the list 2 months after DS was born. Doc asked loads of questions (what if something happened to your son, what would you do?). He was satisfied that it was something we both wanted but even then, it took another year for the actual op and that was only because there was a cancellation.

Distel · 26/08/2005 15:08

I havn't been told about any councilling but you definetely have to give your concent. I don't think age comes in to it, DH is 43 (so quite old ) and I am only 24.

gscrym · 26/08/2005 15:12

Apparantly in our area, it's the counselling appointment that takes a while to get. If you don't both go, the whole process can take longer. It was quite an odd feeling, signing away DH's 'boys'.

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snipsnap · 26/08/2005 15:12

I'm amazed that they would tell anyone who has made a decision that they should come back in six months!

I know it sounds odd that I'm having to get dh the snip but I've waited for longer than I care to think of for him to organise it himself, and even now I've got to do the research.

If we were to go private, would we still have to see our own GP about it, or can we contact a clinic direct? I know absolutely nothing about these things.

And Distel ... 43 is only quite old from the point of view of someone in their 20s - dh is 48 and views 43 as rather spring chicken-like

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Mytwopenceworth · 26/08/2005 15:14

dh had one after the birth of our 2nd child 5 yrs ago now. Which is a bugger cos I want another child, but he did it cos he is adament he doesnt!! He went to gp, but didn't want to jump thru the hoops the nhs require! So he went to Bupa and paid - I think it was £600 ish (don't quote me!!). I wasn't involved at all, didn't need to sign anything and nobody wanted to talk to me about it. I think at his consultation they asked him all the are you sure and how does your wife feel questions, and he said we were in agreement (HA!!), so they booked him in - it was only a few weeks - and he had it done. He came out same day - he wasn't supposed to drive but he did, he was sore for a couple of weeks and moaned about the soreness for a couple of months! But it was a very minor procedure.

Bit of a waste of money really, cos it's been a polite wave across the bedroom since then anyway!!!

Expect lots of whinging - counter with 'thats NOTHING compared to labour!' and 'how painful do you think it was for ME squeezing YOUR CHILDRENS HUGE heads out?!'

Mum2girls · 26/08/2005 15:16

We both had to go to the initial counselling - dp had to sign the forms and the deed was done in the GP surgery on the NHS within 2 months.

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snipsnap · 26/08/2005 15:18

How awful for you that your dh felt he was able to do that without taking your feelings into consideration.

£600 ... I think I'd rather get a couple of bricks and do the deed myself than pay that sort of money ...

To be honest, the thought of his whinging has almost had me booking an appointment with the GP to ask about being sterilised myself, he's a terrible wimp. But then again, I did the Pill bit and the pregnancy bit and the giving birth bit so I reckon it's his turn now.

Thank you all for your posts.

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Distel · 26/08/2005 15:23

I was only joking about dh being old as another poster had said about an older man being 'done' quicker (may have interperated it wrong with children nagging in the background!) I don't see him as old, it's a number thats all. With regards to the councilling we may have had this at the doctors as she asked about what we would do if we lost a child or got pregnant in the meantime and other questions along these lines. I think if you choose to go private you still have to go through your docor but I may be wrong.

Mytwopenceworth · 26/08/2005 15:23

It's really alright, my desperate desire for another child is biological, rather than a rational 'I want to add to our family'. I have a, I suppose a primal instinct thing, to bear more children. It's not sensible, we can't afford it - the kids we've got already have difficulties that require a lot of attention and a million other reasons! But I feel overwhelingly that I NEED to be pregnant and give birth. I suspect that, if we had had another, I would have felt that way after that one - we would have ended up with a football team! I think I am just genetically programmed to be one of natures 'breeders'!! Sorry for the hijack, but didn't want to leave impression dh is unreasonable in this, cos he's not!

WigWamBam · 26/08/2005 15:29

Distel, I know you were only joking. I was, too.

WigWamBam · 26/08/2005 15:29

And I've just outed myself, haven't I ...

Bum!

marthamoo · 26/08/2005 15:38

Oopsadaisy, WWB

I think you should be able to buy gift certificates for them - you know, like those Ferrari driving and hot air ballooning 'Experiences'. The Vasectomy Experience...

WigWamBam · 26/08/2005 15:41

What a good idea, moo ... I think he'd really rather prefer the Ferrari experience though

I feel a bit of a prat now ... I realised as soon as I pressed post what I'd done. Oh well, never mind ...

nailpolish · 26/08/2005 15:41

another senior moment wwb?

WigWamBam · 26/08/2005 15:42

Unfortunately so, nailpolish ...

nailpolish · 26/08/2005 15:43

WigWamBam · 26/08/2005 15:44

Ah, this old-age business doesn't come by itself ... perhaps if I wait another 4 years menopause will be here and we can forget all about the snip

nailpolish · 26/08/2005 15:46

lol!

was going to put that but was worried you would take your teeth out and throw them at me...

if you hang on til i find my buspass ill come with you. was just fancying a game of dominoes

WigWamBam · 26/08/2005 15:51

At least all my teeth are my own ...

Come on, grab your buspass, let's go and have a game of Bingo

expatinscotland · 26/08/2005 16:16

I can't believe a man has to get his wife's consent to have a vasectomy! I'd be really miffed if I went to have a tubal ligation and needed someone else's permission to have a procedure done on MY body!

We've researched private vasectomies around here and they're only wanting £300. Just one consultation w/a urologist beforehand.

DH is 27, but he doesn't want to father anymore children. His choice, but we both agreed when we married that two's enough for us.

I don't think it's the business of a healthcare professional to try to talk someone out of such a decision or decide if a person is too young or ask personal questions like, 'What would you do if your children die?' As if having more would somehow magically replace them.

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