Please calm me down, so worried about prolapse

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I had my first DC 8 months ago. For one reason or another I've not had sex since, nor have I really explored my nether regions.

Did a bit of exploring earlier today and my cervix feels much lower than it used to - I've just checked again and I'd say it's about 2 inches in, although I'm sure it felt lower when I checked it earlier tonight. I'm having a total freakout - my mum had serious prolapse issues and had bits dangling out, and had to have pretty major surgery last year to sort it out. I just can't bear the thought. And I'm 33.

I've not had any incontinence problems at all and so it hadn't really crossed my mind until tonight that there might be a problem.

Does your cervix ever go back up to where it used to be, or is it always a bit lower after a vaginal birth?

Is it possible to bring it back up with kegels?

Does 2 inches in sound low to you?

Does breastfeeding make a difference?

I haven't had a period yet. Will that make a difference?

Must have been the delivery for me, as my cervix was sky high when they induced me 9 days over.

One thing that confuses me is that I used to be able to reach my cervix (sometimes more easily than others depending on where I was in my cycle). My middle finger is 3 inches long at most. Does that mean that my cervix was lowish anyway or is 3 inches the norm?

To stop beating about the bush: how far in are your cervixes?

Also I've had no incontinence and can start and stop a wee, so I had thought my pelvic floor was in decent nick. Can it happen that way?

Age makes it more of a possibility, purple. It's one of the biggest factors, even in women who've never had a baby.

Expat I'm afraid I'm not clear what you are trying to achieve on this thread.

I knew that my body wouldn't be the same after pregnancy and that I will get less attractive as I age. But it still came as a shock to me yesterday to discover a problem when I thought I had emerged relatively unscathed. Maybe I should have expected a prolapse and maybe I will eventually get to the point of just thinking "gravity's a bitch", as you say, but I'm not there yet.

I just wanted some information and support which the other ladies have been great about.

Do you have a prolapse, Expat? What happened? Did you have the surgery or does it still bother you?

I was addressing mumr, Oh, that's why I quoted her. :)

Ok, expat you're forgiven as long as you tell me where your cervix is.

Depends on the time of the month, sometimes it's VERY low. It's also eroded so I have to watch which position we have sex in at certain times of the month.

Oh, I had a fistula with my drug free, textbook perfect delivery of DD2. It's been fixed, but the wall between my vagina and bladder still isn't what it was when I was 25.

I was prescribed some cone shaped weights and physio after her birth.

I needed extensive abdominal physio after her and DS, because my abdominal wall separated and took a long time to go back.

I have an external pile, too, a really bad one. It is still there nearly 2 years after my last child, despite numerous drug treatments, and it sometimes really hurts and bleeds, so I'm on the wait list to have it removed.