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I'm not depressed, I just need a hobby.

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PinkyMe · 09/08/2010 09:55

I've noticed, so has my hubby, that I seem to loose it at the merest thing recently. DH was in an accident recently so is stuck at home. He's started gaming to pass the time.
I work part time and look after our daughter the rest of the time. dd is at that age where she is testing the boundries (terrible 2s. She's mainly good and I worry that I overly irritable when she is only doing things a 2 year old does.
I am also dealing with very difficult, interfering in-laws who stay the weekend about every 2 weeks.
To explain what I mean by loose it, I'll give you an example.
Yesterday (inlaws left in the morning), I lost my temper when I realised Grandad had not put the dustbin bag in properly and as a result food was all over the bin. This was preceded by dd refusing to eat, chucking her alternative food on the floor. Husband asking for something diff for dinner, having sat on his computer all day playing online games and basically not speaking to me except to give the odd instruction to me to get dd who kept running up and down the stairs.
I realise this would test the best of people, but I find I am generally wornout and in a bad mood most of the time. I only have to think of my inlaws to get riled up and the fact that my hubby is spending more and more time on his stupid computer and less time having a conversation with me is driving me mad.

I have come to the conclusion that I need a hobby. Something I can do with dd or while she is playing. Any ideas?

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winnybella · 09/08/2010 09:58

OU course?

LastOrdersAgain · 09/08/2010 10:03

cross-stitch! Sounds like an old ladies pasttime, but I first started when pg to help amuse my hands whilst I gave up smoking. And have carried on since. Its something I can do whilst ds is buzzing around, and also in the evenings. I do a lot of birth samplers, but never 'diplay' my work. I sympathise with the moods, I really do. I get bad moods with my monthlys and end up ranting at the smallest thing. Also, maybe talk to dh. Just cos he can't do much, doesn't mean he's lost the use of his tongue!

ValiumSingleton · 09/08/2010 10:03

Are you shouldering all the responsibility ? You don't want to be. I think a hobby would be another load to bear right now. spend the money on a cleaner.......?

Get your husband off the fkcngiu computer. He can do colouring, playdough, lego with your daughter.

gardenpixie · 09/08/2010 10:11

I agree with ValiumSingleton - if your DH is well enough to spend time gaming, he's well enough to help out with DS surely?

Sounds like you need a break and some time to yourself. Possibly your hobby could be escaping for some pampering on a regular basis? Smile

PinkyMe · 09/08/2010 11:41

Unfortunately, he really couldn't look after her for any significant length of time. We have tried, but if she runs up the stairs or climbs onto anything he is just too immobile to react quickly enough to stop her hurting herself or even pick her up.

You are right in pointing out that he could sit with her while she colours, etc and to be fair to him he does this, but usually only when I'm busy cooking dinner so I'm within calling distance.

I will be having a chat with him about doing this more and about just talking to me more. I tried to tell him how I feel last night but I was still to annoyed and also feeling silly about my blow out so I don't think it made much sense.

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