Please help. My Dad has dementia and has become severely dehydrated and is in hospital on a drip. He changed homes 12 days ago and I feel so guilty about it. He was really ill about a week before he moved (that helps me in that he didn't suddenly become ill on moving) and at one point the doc asked me about resuscitation so I knew he was bad. However he came out f that and started to eat and drink a little but I think the move upset him. The girls are lovely where he is but they couldn't get him to eat or drink. Should I have asked for him to go to hospital earlier or should they have insisted? They called the doc in on Saturday and made him go, it was the right decision but I feel so guilty that maybe if he'd gone earlier he might be better now.
I keep getting different stories of different nurses. I spoke to one yesterday morning and she virtually said he might die, it was wait and see but not really, really hopeful. I was going to ring DS2 (on hol) to come and say goodbye. When I got to the hospital, another nurse said he'd had two spoons of yoghurt and had been trying to talk. I spent an hour with him, totally unresponsive and when I asked her about it she came over and tried to wake him. She couldn't either so said that we just had to wait and see over the next 24 hours! That's a bit different from what she said earlier about give him a few days and he'll be better!
I tjink he's going to die and I am thinking about telling him that it's OK to go, if he wants and then he can be with my mum, even tho I want him to stay.
Can anyone help, does anyone have any experience of this please? Can I ask for a prviate room for him, I'd like to play music for him. Can I stay all day with him, not just visiting hors?
Any help please?