A couple of months back, I was sent a message through Genes Reunited by somebody looking for their half brother. Turns out that this woman is DH's half sister. DH knows all about her, and her immediate family. They share the same dad but DH hasn't had any contact with his father for his entire life. Obviously, we were in quite a bit of shock and DH struggled to handle the knowledge that his "other family" wanted to get in touch after all this time.
Not wanting to get involved or make things difficult for my DH, I ignored her messages but then she started to send messages to people in my family, my mum, aunt, distant cousins. I then sent messages to all those people she had contacted and, on the request of DH asked them to either ignore her or if they felt they must reply, to leave her with as little info as possible.
Eventually, it seemed as though she had got the message and left off with the messages. However, last night whilst on Facebook, I noticed a message from her in my inbox. I did tell DH what had happened and he has told me to tell her that he is not the person she is looking for in the hope that she will go away. I don't think he feels ready for any kind of relationship with his other family atm and I think he is still trying to come to terms with the shock of it all.
I would do as he has asked and reply with the information I am allowed, but if I do that, she will be able to see my friends list etc, which contains all the people she contacted on the GR site and also DH's mum. I could tell her that there is no connection, but she will work it out as it will be so obvious.
I'm not sure therefore what to write back to her. If I keep ignoring her, she will suspect something dodgy but at the same time, I'm getting a bit annoyed that she seems to be popping up wherever I am.
WWYD?