I think my sons dad is my 4th cousin.

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I’m not with my sons dad, we split when I was pregnant and he has had sporadic contact with him.

I did realise there might have been link between my family and his a few years ago, after my grandmother said something about names in the families etc but I was never sure.

I’ve been researching my family tree, it appears me and my sons dad, could be 4th cousins I think? Basically our great grandmothers were first cousins.

I have done a dna test and my ex is not on the same database that I can see - he doesn’t strike me as someone interested in family history anyway.

this isn’t close enough to cause an issue is it? I mean my sons autistic but he gets that from me 😂

it also means that my youngest child with my partner is very distantly related to my sons half brothers too 🤦‍♀️

please make me feel a little better here!

That degree of consanguinity doesn't sound remotely worrying.

No it’s not close enough to cause an issue. Even a 1st cousin marriage only increases the risks slightly. The big problems happen when you have multiple generations of interrelated marriages (so like marriages between cousins over multiple generations) or a very small community that always marry within that community and the gene pool just ends up too shallow. A one off 4th cousin marriage (or more importantly, having children with a 4th cousin) isn’t anything to worry about.

No, it's fine. Plenty of other DNA in the gene pool.

Legally you can marry and have children with your first cousin, so 4th cousins is perfectly distant enough to not cause genetic issues I’d say.

Philip and Elizabeth II were third cousins. nothing to worry about. Most of the genetic worries come from multiple cousin marriages through generations.

So you have more than one dc? Yes, in that case as well as being siblings or half-siblings, they are also 5th cousins with each other.

Nothing remotely worrying about being with a 4th cousin! As a pp has mentioned, even with a first time consanguinous relationship between first cousins, the risk is tiny. It's repeated first cousin marriages through the generations that are problematic.

I have one with my ex partner/4th cousin who is a teenager and a daughter with my partner 🌸

Agree that it’s not close enough to cause a problem. I come from a small community and married an outsider. I remember my DSis saying something at the time about me adding some fresh genes to the little pool!