So basically, me and my husband got married two years ago and culturally you live with the mother in law for a while. So after a year and 9 months of playing perfect daughter in law, never complaining about anything (and trust me I had plenty, changing my dress code, never having my legs in show, babysitting the nieces and nephews, dealing with noisy relatives, having to have quiet sex, no privacy, dealing with expectations of cleaning/cooking/always having to be there when guests come around (about twice a day MINIMUM! And always being questioned whenever and wherever I go out and what time I'll be back, we finally moved out. However, he brought the house 3 doors down, but being heavily pregnant, I didn't complain, as anything is better then bringing a baby up in that environment right? Especially with the noise and so many children and guests.
Now I just found out my brother in law is getting married, and as my mother in law helped my husband buy the house (by loaning him 15k - which he will pay back) she expects us to let him and his new wife move in because we have two spare bedrooms?
How do I approach the situation, we've just had a baby, I finally just got privacy, our own little home, just us three, I only just got a taste of what it felt like to worry about my own child and my own husband for a change and not have to deal with drama, to wear what I want and to leave the house without being asked where I'm going and what time I'll be back. My mum also just brought me loads of dishes for when my guests come round, loads of pots and pans and I was just making one of the rooms into the nursery. I don't want to have to give up a room for them, or let anyone mess around with gifts from my mother to me, even if it is selfish.
How can I avoid the situation? Please let me know what I should do. I don't want to seem like the bitchy daughter in law but truth is, once they move in, it'll go back to noisy people, wearing more clothing and the relatives coming over this end "to see the relatives".