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Genealogy

long lost family suddenly acting weird about meeting

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aubz88 · 20/01/2020 10:14

If you have read my previous question I have come into contact with my grandparents who didn't know that I existed.

I have been in regular contact with them since July 2019. There's been loads of warm emails, a few phone calls and they even sent me a gift for XMas. I wasn't expecting that.

This year I am considering visiting. My mother and a few other relatives live in the same area as they do so I might as well pop in and say hello. It does require an international flight though as I have moved abroad.

Ever since I told them that I might be visiting their warm emails have turned into one-liners and there appears to be a lot of silence.

It's really upsetting me! They said in the past over the phone that they wanted to meet so I don't get what's going on.

They are 85 years old so I feel that time is of the essence but they are doing great for their age. I plan to visit in either May or October so it's not like I'm going to show up tomorrow.

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sundaypie · 07/02/2020 19:05

It may be age, or is there any shame attached to why there was an estrangement.

The only reason I say that is due to the age of them, my mum met her two half sisters this year - and she really struggled. She wanted to meet them, but didn't want the past brought up, couldn't face that after all these years. One sister was cool and didn't dwell, the other just went on and on about the what ifs, and the scandal....my elderly mother struggled with that. Ps she loved meeting and knowing what happened to her sisters, but as she put it - wish it happened when she was younger and more able.

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