DNA help

[RomanyQueen]

I have thousands of matches for my mothers side, I know they are through surnames and other refs from cousins trees. There are about 4k in total, then another 48k of other matches.

Just checking I'm doing everything I can apart from hiring a specialist at thousands of £.

I want to find my father, no idea of name, hardly any details. I've filed my mothers side and have found one contact that seems as though could be from fathers side but could be up to 8th removed.
We have no shared matches showing up.
What can I do apart from keep going through the matches until I find a link with the suspected fathers side.

Is that what peaky blinders is about? Never seen it but have a prop from the series (a boxing ring?) coming to my barn soon for some new film!

Anyone else feel like they make massive progress only to realise how little they still know? In the search for my elusive maternal grandmother I’ve whittled down my mother’s matches using the Leeds method then further refining by those who have linked trees of a few generations. So I’m left with a tiny handful of matches, all I have on my grandmother (and I’m not wholly convinced it’s her but it sort of tallies with what my mother was told) is an entry in a 1911 census in Norfolk (England) as a 1 year old under her real name with two parents (who don’t check out dna descendants wise) and a brother who never surfaces again. Then she shows up on a 1939 register under the name she was known by with a child who I think must be my uncle (but he was also known by a different name which someone has noted in green ink in 1967) then that’s it until her death in the 80s. What should my next step be? I’m currently raiding the trees of the dna matches and lots of overlap between them - names and places in Norfolk - but no resemblance to the tree I built based on the parents and brother named in 1911.

Like what are the possibilities- she was adopted? A foundling? The family were non conformist or not Christian or recent immigrants? The matches live in Australia with two exceptions in the UK who have roots in Norfolk. I want to trace my lineage back to Boudicca ffs!

Could she be or have run off with a gypsy.
So many were sent to Australia, America, some of their own accord too, but so many transported.
I have some distant ancestors sent to Australia and next generation found themselves back to England/Wales, only to be transported again
To come back again.

People on rootschat have found them! The gt grandfather is from line of agricultural labourers in Lincolnshire! I obviously wasn’t looking properly in any of the right places 😀 can’t wait to look into the gt grandma line!!

I’ll be so excited if I find out someone was transported somewhere- my dad’s line were looking for religious freedom and economic opportunities and similarly with my maternal granddad’s line although from different countries and different religions.

The gt grandma line, or parts of it, first came to England in 1803 from Ireland while the rest seem to have much deeper roots in Norfolk and Lincolnshire- in a few days the thrulines thing should update and hopefully support these hypotheses. Very nice feeling! Definitely recommend rootschat for super helpful advice.

Petronellas
If you were adopted in Ireland you could contact the Adoption Board. There is s register for bms and adoptees who want to link up. She may be looking for you.
If you were born in Ireland and know the date and exactly where you were born and possibly your birth first name you could go to the Births Marriages and Deaths office and check through the files. It will give you your birth mothers name. It's time consuming but it can be done.
DH did it.

Sadly only one of my maternal grandma lines seems to check out, in the dna department so I’m guessing the man on her birth certificate isn’t her biological dad. No idea where to look next!