Family sharing - Apple

[Mamamia35]

I bought an iPad for my child but am in a family group with ex-husband. He is the organiser. It seems I cannot set a child account up, he has to do it. I don't want him to have this control, he doesn't care about parental controls etc. Any insight about what I can do here? We use a family calendar. I want to be able to monitor the child activity, location etc. Seems backward of Apple to only allow one organiser. Or have I misunderstood?

I think you probably need to set up your own Apple family grouping without your ex husband and then set up your child's iPad on that basis. It means you will have to pay the monthly subscription though.

Thanks but I don't think that's possible @TreePorcupine You can't be a member of two families (as far as I can see). I don't have any family option to set it up, as I'm already part of a family group. It is currently basic family sharing for a calendar and photos, nothing else. It may be a permissions issue though, as I'm an adult not a parent in the group. It's doing my head in!

I'm not sure why you need to be a member of two family groups. Surely you need to cut loose from your ex's Apple ID family and set your own up (or am I missing something)?

This is an extract from the Apple Support page:

"Remove your account from a family group
If your Apple ID is being used to share purchases with a family group that you no longer want to be part of, you can visit your Apple ID account page and remove the account from the family directly. Go to appleid.apple.com and sign in with the Apple ID and password for the account you want to remove. In the Family Sharing section, choose Remove Account > Remove. After you've left the family group, you can start your own family group or join another one."

Sadly when there are children, co-parenting and shared calendars involved I can't just cut loose from that family group. It's an amicable arrangement. We don't share purchases or anything like that,

Anyway, it's resolved. I had adult permissions, not parent permission so I can now fix the child account. But many people must be in a similar situation with unconventional family arrangements. I'd expect Apple to allow you to be part of multiple family groups.