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Can this happen?

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chukkanukka · 14/05/2018 21:16

Just need opinions and thought on this please, I'll try and keep it short.

Can an address appear on the inbuilt car satnav as a previously visited address if it hasn't been driven to before?

Weird address appeared as previous destination it's not somewhere I've driven to before, partner says he hasn't either 🤷‍♀️ am I overthinking that something dodgy is going on? Thanks for reading.

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Myneighboursnorlax · 14/05/2018 21:19

Could it be somewhere the previous owner went? When we bought our car, the sat nav was full of the old owners journeys.

FanSpamTastic · 14/05/2018 21:26

If you have ever left the car in a garage for the day then it could have gone there.

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chukkanukka · 14/05/2018 21:34

The car hasn't been left in a garage, it was new to us and all previous addresses have been driven too, I ask as partner had a week off of work, has been picking me up and dropping me off to have the car and then this address appeared which is within 10 mins of our house, when I asked who he visited thinking he'd gone to see a friend, he accused me of going to the address and of cheating on him 🙄 (I'm obviously not) we've agreed to disagree and forget it but it's bugging me so much that he accused me of something like that! I've since driven past the house but it's just that a house, I've no idea who lives there and have never been to that road previously! His thoughts now is he had the car cleaned the week he was off and they wiped the screen which is how it must have gotten into it, which would not happen as would take to long and is quite complexed to put an address in.

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Summerisdone · 14/05/2018 21:51

I usually hate how other users on here try to convince the OP to jump to conclusions, but honestly this sounds very fishy.
First the random address popped up on a week your partner has had a week off and full access to the car.
Second, he became quite defensive and then accused you of an affair with someone at the address. Often a cheater deflects by accusing partner of what they are actually doing themselves.
Third, after he has had a bit longer to think (and no longer caught off guard) he has come up with a more reasonable reason, though it's actually still a very flimsy explanation imo.

If I were you, I wouldn't yet accuse him, do be look for other signs as it could be nothing, but does seem very suspect, although hopefully I'm wrong and it turns out to be nothing.

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chukkanukka · 14/05/2018 22:02

I've not yet accused him of anything after all I've no proof really, just some random address which could mean nothing at all! I was very shocked with his response as literally could have said he'd visited a friend and id have thought nothing of it. It's made me very suspicious but I can't really prove anything I've no access to his phone (I don't know the password) I've never asked for it, I've never had any reason too. Wish I could find out who lives there without having to knock on the door. (Which I wouldn't as I'm not that crazy) 😂

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jigglepiggle · 14/05/2018 22:08

Try googling the address - I know when I google my parents address it comes up with their details. Can’t find anything at my own address as it’s a new build though. Worth a try. This sounds really suspicious, I think you need to do some digging.

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chukkanukka · 14/05/2018 22:12

I have google it, nothing comes up at all no history to be found. I can see when all the houses have been bought/sold around it but not this one which leads me to believe it was bought a long time ago and is probably rented out privately? I'm not sure what else I can do really? It's just left me with a very strange feeling...

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jigglepiggle · 14/05/2018 22:30

I’m not sure how desperate you are to find out but a land registry check would tell you who owns the house. But I agree, that won’t be helpful if you think the house has been rented.

eservices.landregistry.gov.uk/eservices/FindAProperty/view/QuickEnquiryInit.do

Nottheduchessofcambridge · 14/05/2018 22:46

That is quite weird. You know it has to have been put in there by either you or your OH, and if it wasn’t you then it has to be him. I think I’d have to stake out the house for a while.

LifeinColour · 14/05/2018 22:53

Sounds fishy for sure, addresses don't appear unless you have searched for them. Thou it doesn't necessarily mean he's gone there but I'd def have red flags over this!

Agree with @Summerisdone and keep your eyes open OP..

I've gone crazy detective mode on my DH ass many a time if you need any pointers Wink Confused

Good luck hope it's nothing Thanks

mump0ints · 14/05/2018 22:55

If the car has not been left with anyone (you hear of valet parked cars being driven by car park attendants for instance) then it has to be your partner.

Is he doing anything else weird?

bionicnemonic · 14/05/2018 23:04

Maybe make a mental note of the car mileage to see if it tallys with what you’d expect

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chukkanukka · 14/05/2018 23:06

His not doing anything differently that I've been aware of?! He questions me a little more on where I've been, who with ect but I took that as interest, he has the day off tomorrow is dropping and collecting me from work again so he'll have access to the car, have confided in my best friend who is also not at work tomorrow she said she'll drive past the address through out the day on her travels and see if the car is there 🤷‍♀️ I even said if it's an ex's address ect and you've just drove past out of curiosity just tell me ect he gets quite cross and defensive if I bring it up, I've been looking the address up all night! Not sure what I'm hoping my friend sees tbh...

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chukkanukka · 14/05/2018 23:07

Great tip about the mileage, I'll do that in the morning, he said his popping to the gym after dropping me at work so I know roughly how much petrol should be used 👍🏻

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BestZebbie · 14/05/2018 23:08

I sometimes have random addresses on the satnav because it is the easiest way to approximate where I actually want to go - for example I often drive to a particular soft play but I dont know the postcode, so I type in the village and then just agree with the first street and house number suggestions which it offers me there, as once I get to the village I know where the soft play is. But my car record would show I keep visiting this random house there.

CookPassBabtridge · 14/05/2018 23:21

I would go all detective and sit outside the house! Or knock on their door and ask for a random person, pretending you got the wrong house..
But only if I had reason to feel suspicious anyway.

mump0ints · 14/05/2018 23:24

I would also sit outside the house if I were able. Wouldn’t knock myself in case the owner had seen pics of me, would get a friend to do that though.

jigglepiggle · 15/05/2018 06:44

Get your friend to take pictures if she does see his car there! The fact he is so defensive about it all would be alarm bells for me.

NoYouDontHaveThat · 15/05/2018 06:55

I'd be pissed off too if you were questioning my movements.

Don't sit outside the house, you'll look unhinged. If you don't trust him - end the relationship, don't sneak about trying to catch him out.

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chukkanukka · 15/05/2018 07:08

You could walk the distance from our house to this address, there's nothing else in the area but houses, he knows the area well as grew up in it (I didn't so don't know anyone to drive to anyway) it doesn't make sense that it could be to something near by. He must have been looking for that particular address, the house number was put in too. I personally won't go to the house, if when my friend drives past today they car is there she'll take a pic, if it is there I don't understand why tbh 🤷‍♀️ hoping it isn't but wouldn't be surprised if it is after his reaction, I know he won't be honest as I will 100% not put up with cheating and will leave.

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Smidge001 · 15/05/2018 13:17

If its walking distance to your house I don't think keeping record of his mileage will help you as it'll hardly add anything to the odometer if he drives there.

Also, if its walking distance to your house And your oh knows the area well, why would he even need to put the address in the sat nav? Seems a bit strange to me.

You'd think if he was conducting an affair he'd have already been to her house at some point (given her a lift home/followed her from work etc) so it seems odd he'd have to put the address in the nav.

LifeinColour · 15/05/2018 17:01

Hi OP did your friend manage to take a drive over there today?

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chukkanukka · 15/05/2018 22:01

Yes she did she didn't see anything at all and when he collected me from work he still had his same pjs so n he'd dropped me off in so I know he hadn't been out of the house today 🤷‍♀️

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LifeinColour · 15/05/2018 22:36

Cynical me says he knows you're onto him so he's either laying low or he's quickly changed back to his pj's!

Sorry I'm a Debbie downer & completely paranoid when it comes to weird behaviour like this so hopefully it's all of nothing..
go with your gut

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chukkanukka · 15/05/2018 22:46

No I'm starting to think his up to something, I don't think he was out today but like you've said maybe he knows I'm on to him? I've noticed on social media that although I wasn't in his current profile picture, scrolling through older ones and all trace of me has gone, now that's odd! So to look through his profile pics it would seem I've never been there or on one of them which I certainly have been multiple times and now those pictures have vanished all trace of me after 2015 has...I think we need a chat 🙄

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