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Whatsapp...please help.

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MummyBtothree · 07/03/2015 19:52

Hi is there any way of finding out if DH has got a whatsapp account (or similar to be honest). I know theres some apps that were on his phone when he bought it second hand but I know it doesnt necessarily mean he uses them. Thanks.

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juneybean · 07/03/2015 19:53

If you have whatsapp on or phone and your husband as a contact he would show up in your whatsapp contact list if he has t installed.

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MummyBtothree · 07/03/2015 20:04

I installed whatsapp myself but it wanted me to put my mobile no to sign up so I uninstalled it cos I wasnt sure what I might be getting into.

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juneybean · 07/03/2015 20:05

WhatsApp is totally legit it just has to be linked to a mobile number (I.e. you can't use it on a tablet)

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MummyBtothree · 07/03/2015 20:09

if I go ahead and insert my number therefore sign up to it when I uninstall will there be any trace that ive done it?. Being accused of 'paranoia' but my gut instinct keeps niggling at me. If not whatsapp then im sure something similar is being used. we share an email addy but he could use his samsung gmail account I guess. by the sound of it tho these apps use your moby number not email

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HoppityVoosh · 07/03/2015 20:13

What's the problem if he does have WhatsApp? As above, it is totally legit so if you download it all your contacts who have WhatsApp, including your husband, would appear in your contact list.

twirlypoo · 07/03/2015 20:13

What's app is a messaging service that's totally above board - if you install it you will see if he is a contact, and he will be able to see you. You could always get a cheap phone and use that number instead if you want total anonymity. Whatsapp isn't a dating site or dodgy tho, so I'm not sure what It would prove?

Trills · 07/03/2015 20:23

Can you explain what it is that you are worried about?

ThreeMoreDaysTillFriday · 07/03/2015 20:32

Whatsapp is basically a service for free messaging between yourself and other phonebook contacts. It is basically no different from text messages except it can be used via wifi and not just your phone signal. I used it all the time for messaging my Mum as her house is a mobile signal deadspot.

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MummyBtothree · 07/03/2015 20:34

I dont think he's having an affair for a minute but think he's been chatting to other females, most likely anonymously, I havent a clue how these apps work. He hates me near his phone and we've had several rows over it. When hes guilty he retaliates with attack and said I was paranoid and should see a doctor.

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youmakemydreams · 07/03/2015 20:36

Even if he does have whatsapp I'm not sure what it would prove. When you register it like others have said it will show all your contacts that use it. It will also show you when the last logged on but it is just an app used for messaging. Exactly the same as text messaging nothing sinister at all. I use whatsapp a lot. It is a free way to send pictures to my mum and a few friends.
One friend uses it instead of text as she lives in a crappy signal area.

What do you think you'll find even if he does have it. The majority of my contacts use it.

BertieBotts · 07/03/2015 20:36

Whatsapp is an application which routes text messages via the internet instead of the mobile network, so it makes international texts, picture messages etc free if you're on wifi or have unlimited internet. I used to use it a lot when DH lived abroad.

If he is reacting angrily then I think that is the problem rather than whether he is hiding something or not.

Siolence · 07/03/2015 20:39

Whatsapp isn't anonymous as it uses your phone number. If he is messaging anonymously he would have to use something different.

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MummyBtothree · 07/03/2015 20:40

Just being secretive and hiding things however innocent would be enough to prove im not paranoid. Hes very controlling and been physically violent and very aggressive but very clever at turning it round saying its my fault

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MummyBtothree · 07/03/2015 20:41

Are all of those sort of apps anonymous?

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juneybean · 07/03/2015 20:42

Is Kik perhaps anonymous? There may be other apps that are anonymous

forago · 07/03/2015 20:44

no apps are anonymous

Siolence · 07/03/2015 20:57

Kik is anonymous in as far as it only uses a username. Other than that I would have thought any messaging within something like Twitter would be anonymous because again it's using a username rather than a mobile number.

Siolence · 07/03/2015 20:59

Regardless though, you don't need to catch him out to move on. Controlling is enough.
Physically violent is definitely time to draw a line.

Trills · 07/03/2015 21:00

What do you mean by anonymous?

Trills · 07/03/2015 21:01

Do you mean "you can talk to people you don't know"?

Trills · 07/03/2015 21:02

Either way, if you are rowing over you checking his phone then that's not a sign of a healthy relationship.

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MummyBtothree · 07/03/2015 21:14

yes talking to people you dont know. I know its not healthy but im determined to prove myself right and not paranoid or going mad. I wrote the thread on here as its technical advice I was after really as im useless with phones etc. The relationship/emotional part ive got nailed.

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MummyBtothree · 07/03/2015 21:31

Meant to say thank you and I really do appreciate everyones help xxxx

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