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DD wants facebook or MSN or something techy & unknown; what is reasonably safe & what rules do I impose?

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KatyMac · 22/02/2011 21:59

When I say impose; I mean I will hold a meeting asking leading questions & require DD to create her own rules (because it is more likely to work)

So what do I let her join?

How do I prevent cyber-bullying? (previous bullying victim)

Computer is never in a room by herself, & never in her room. Currently I have all passwords etc for everything she has joined, she is likely to agree to this in order to get the 'boon' of being allowed to join. She also goes nowhere I don't take her.

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KatyMac · 22/02/2011 21:59

Oops forgot to say she is 13

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Niceguy2 · 22/02/2011 23:18

As long as you are there, she'll be fine.

I insisted upon my DD adding myself and some other trusted adults & family members as friends so they could also keep an eye out.

Also, no adults I didn't know, and no adding friends that she didn't know personally or at the same school with.

She'll probably ignore you on some of them like mine has but I've grown to trust her.

Forget the papers who make you think peados lurk on every page. The most likely problem you'll have is the other girls all bitching and sniping and your DD gets caught up in it all. That's when you need to be around to help her deal with it.

There really is no replacement for parental supervision.

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KatyMac · 23/02/2011 07:51

That's what I thought - it's the bullying that worries me most

So I grit my teeth & go for Facebook

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Niceguy2 · 23/02/2011 20:08

Good luck Katy.

At least with Facebook, if it all kicks off, you can hit printscreen and show the teacher/parent what their cherub has been saying.

usualsuspect · 23/02/2011 20:12

Agree with Niceguy2 be her friend on fb and tell her to only add people she knows ..not any old friend of a friend etc ..look at the security settings and make sure its set to friends only

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KatyMac · 23/02/2011 22:09

Oh it's hard being a mum

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silverfrog · 23/02/2011 22:12

when she (inevitably) adds photos and albums - you need to ensure each album's privacy rating is also set to friends only, or customise etc.

the default is for everyone, meaning friend sof freinds, etc, which is where is can spiral out of control a bit.

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KatyMac · 23/02/2011 22:17

Thanks - I'll see what I can do

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