How to stop gardening fails knock your gardening confidence?

[R0ckl0bster]

I tend to take gardening fails personally and it really knocks my gardening confidence - things like battling with weeds, plant death, slug damage, the endless jobs I never seem to get on top of etc

I know its part and parcel of gardening and all worth it but how do you stop negativity creeping in? I’d like to be one of those gardeners that takes it all in their stride. 😊

It's not failure it's experimentation.

If something kicks the bucket, try to figure out why it died and think of it as a learning experience.

It is Slug & Snail Paradise round here for some reason. Some things act like a magnet to them, so if I try a new plant and it gets eaten, I don't bother planting that thing again. I wouldn't bother planting hostas for instance.

Thanks so much for that link!

Just came back to add that my garden did really well last years. All the whites Ihad left ( peonies and some self seeding stuff) into bloom in April and May. They died back and all my new bright stuff came up for June and July!

Thats literally taken 20 years to get the right plants and bulbs to work togetjer at the time!

A 50% survival rate is amazing. 25% is still fine.

No such things as 'jobs' (piss off Monty D), it's my hobby.

I enjoy the process and the learning curve like I do any other hobby

That said, I'm very good at killing clematis and passion flower, which is somewhat frustrating. Though last summer I learnt from my neighbour that passion flower prefers shade! On the other hand, I always have far too much rhubarb and chillies.

Even if something dies I remind myself it lasted a lot longer than supermarket flowers for the same price would have done

How do you not make it not look really chaotic in a cottage garden plants style garden?

God wish I did. I’ve managed to kill 2 rhubarb plants. 😳