which bits do you nip off your tomato plant?

[umberella]

when a tiny leaf appears above one of the stems - please tell me it's the tiny leaf and not the stem.

i am debating this with dp.

I think you nip out new growing shoots when you have a certain amount of branches that will produce fruit and don't want the plant to put energy into producing extras but when you do this depends on the type of plant. Bush/ hanging basket toms do not need pinching out. I prefer these as I am lazy

Sorry didn't read question properly, yes it's the leaf and NOT the stem!

The tiny leaf between the main 'trunk' and a proper sized 'branch' (iyswim).

A lot of people don't bother doing this anymore - something to do with the varieties grown I think.