What flowers in October? a plant to remember baby by

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I'd like to plant something that will be flowering at the time that our baby would've been due, at the end of Sept/beginning of October.
I've just had a miscarriage, at about 10 weeks pg, and the reason I'm thinking about the plant now is that we'll be burying our little one soon, so it also needs to be something that is happy to be planted now, I guess.
Any ideas - I'm really grateful for your help.

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What a lovely idea!. Chrysanthemums?, although there are lots of types, we have one in the garden that flowers until the very end of October.

Michaelmas daisies. Although I would probably plant a tree like a crab apple that has lovely fruit in the autumn and blossom in the spring.

I second the crab apple idea. I've got a small crab apple tree and it is beautiful - also has a far longer lifespan than flowers.

So sorry to hear of your loss.

thank you.. i do like the idea of a tree, bearing beautiful fruit in the autumn.

do you know which species of crab apple stays fairly small? we don't have a garden but my fil has offered his - it is a beautiful place, full of wildflowers and he has some apple and plum and quince trees already, so I don't want anything that'll get too big.. we just want something to mark a special spot.

My crab apple was planted by predecessors in my house, so it's over 10 years old. It's about 8 feet/2 metres high. I've got a small patio-style garden and it's perfect - soil awful too but it doesn't seem to mind.

I think there are lots of different varieties (different types of fruit) - mine is I think a 'red sentinel', fruits are sort of like large red cherries. Some are different colours, some more apple-y.

I'm sorry for your loss. Nerines are lovely flowers and so are autumn crocus. They are both bulbs/corms so could be used to underplant a tree or shrub.

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thanks so much for your ideas so far. any others really appreciated.
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what a lovely way to remember. you could go for a tree designed for autum colour such as one of the acers (Japanese maples) which are very dramatic and fiery at the right time of year. you can get some which dont grow beyond 2m (have a look on crocus.co.uk). they like acid soil tho. fig trees dont grow very big, are pretty easy so long as you restrict the roots (great planted against a wall) and the fruits are i vaguely remember associated with fertility (something to do with the shape?) which might be appropriate.
it flowers at the wrong time of year for you but rosemary is the traditional herb of remembrance - i had some in my wedding flowers for my MIL who had died - and a rosemary bush is a lovely addition to a garden.