I'm sorry. I'm not upset. I was however very irritated by the "ruin the planet" comment, which is just absurd and not helpful or sensitive to context. I am desperate to get the lawn sorted so the kids and we can use it. Our 'summers' are very brief and I only have evenings, not even weekends, and so far this year about as many sunny days as I have fingers.
I agree with you holly, it's a much bigger job than just the moss. I have a friend who is a professional gardener and she said quite a few people have this issue this year because our winter was warm and it has been so wet. In our case, I think the thick thatching has made things much worse, because it's like a sponge holding water which the moss is thriving on.
I would not have considered killing the moss at all initially, but I was told that if I scarified the lawn while it was still thriving, it might disperse spores (?) more widely, and if the wet weather continues the situation would be worse. Hence the questions.
We have a large scarifier attachment for our ride on, which looks like it will be brutal but hopefully effective at cutting through the thatch and letting light and air in.
I don't want to start again. I like the lawn. It's a fine blade and makes beautiful meadow areas if left to grow, which we like to do to. We haven't been able to identify the types of grass though, although we're trying so we can re-seed with the same grass. At the moment this lovely lawn is being suffocated in large areas by moss.
If I used chemicals it would be a one-off, preceding the rest of the rescue effort. I can't manually go around removing it. I have no time. However I most likely will not use chemicals for the moss, but only because I am concerned it might affect the fine lawn as well. I think the planet would probably be OK.
I would only use chemicals now (if it came to that) because there is no garden except this lawn, and it's depressingly sterile of bees butterflies wildlife. We are wildlife gardeners, and I know if we get wildlife in, I won't want to use chemicals then. And yes I know there are beasties I probably can't see, but still far fewer than I know we will get to eventually. So I want to address the lawn now, before the bees and butterflies arrive.
I will be spot treating the dandelions though.