Sorry for long post, but just not sure what is “normal bumps” for sixth form. Would really appreciate some advice.
DS is in y12 and studying a double sport BTEC alongside Business Studies A level. He was also doing core maths AS level, but dropped it two weeks ago. He is very dyslexic and has ADHD. Sport is going really well - working to DD at the moment had an excellent written report at half term. The Business teacher report said he was very good in class, hard working and motivated, but had struggled at times. Suggestions for ongoing revision but no massive flags. He is the only one in the course who doesn’t have the GCSE and has felt under a bit of pressure from the start.
He has been very quiet for the last week or so and yesterday came home from his driving lesson in floods of tears - I have never seen him so upset. He kept stalling and the instructor took over the driving. After lots of hugs and chat and tea, he said that he was worrying the whole time about business studies. One of her teachers asked him to stay behind after class about 10 days ago and told him he was failing and heading for an F.
I was really taken aback at how worried he is and that he’d not talked about it. He’s been planning his career out and looking for work experience and apart from him being quiet, I had no idea that he was worried. We have parents evening on Monday night, but feel I need a more formal conversation with the school.
DS really struggled with academics and was in a specialist dyslexia school until y9. He got six gcse (6s and 5s) and learnt how to get there with hard work. His confidence grew over gcse years and he was confident about his abilities. Yesterday he bought up lots of things about being thick and how he used to feel in classrooms and that he hated how anxious he felt inside.
DS, without a doubt, would have been better off doing BTEC Business, as he does well in course work. There was a block clash with Core Maths, which he really wanted to do. He’s at a new school, in a new town and I think it’s just all added up.
Do you think it would be too late to switch to the BTEC? He has been studying the subject since September and he could focus on catching up on course work between now and September, and then take all of the exams next year. Even if he had to do an extra term?
I read that starting y12 again is an option, but I’m not sure that would be such a good idea: as he’s made lots of friends and may not help him feel good about himself.
And then I think, should he just double down on the Business and help him through?? He is really interested in business and reads the paper and has lots of chat.
Thank you if you’ve read this far. Any advice on what to aim for and how to handle school would really help.