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Gap year options

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temperedolive · 05/05/2025 02:01

DD has absolutely fallen in love with French over the course of Y12. She has a wonderful A-level teacher who really seems to have lit a fire in her, and she's very excited by her own progress. She is a very creative girl, and is intent on a degree in jewellery design or product design, but would now like to take a gap year or two and develop her French as much as possible in that time. We've been brainstorming options, but we can only think of two.

First, au pair in France. This would give her the advantage of having a guaranteed job before departure, accommodations, and a support system in a HF. She loves children and is good with them. It would be European French, which is what she is studying now. But she may struggle to find a HF in Paris or a major city, and she's hoping to participate in the local art community in her spare time, visiting galleries and taking some lessons. That might be harder in a rural setting.

Option two is a gap year in Canada. We are dual citizens, so she could work there. This gives her some control over where she works and what job; she could just go to Montreal and start applying in cafes and similar. It's more flexible and she wouldn't lose a visa if the job didn't work out. She could try different thjngs, teach at a ski resort, etc. She wouldn't have to live wirh her employers. But she'd have to sort out her own accommodation and she'd be further from home - no weekend visits. Although my DM is reasonably nearby in case of emergency. It's also Canadian French, which apparently has some differences from the European version.

So there are pros and cons to each. Are there anynoptions we haven't thought of? Any glaring red flags we're missing here that would make your DC lean one way or the other?

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clary · 05/05/2025 07:51

There are differences in Candian French (swear words, oddly, and also a few random words related to English like char instead of voiture) but I wouldn't say they were a big issue. French Canadians are very proud of their French heritage so if she was up for it Canada might be good. Cultural offer is wonderful in Paris tho and the immersion in language from living with a family would be great.

ETA meant to say its great that she loves her French so much!

temperedolive · 05/05/2025 10:55

@clary It really IS great! I'm surprised, because she liked it fine but it was never a passion before. But this past year seems to have lit a fire.

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Ceramiq · 05/05/2025 10:59

Why do you think your DD would struggle to find a host family in Paris? That is where the demand for English au pairs is greatest (by far).

temperedolive · 05/05/2025 11:05

temperedolive · 05/05/2025 10:55

@clary It really IS great! I'm surprised, because she liked it fine but it was never a passion before. But this past year seems to have lit a fire.

Sorry wrong reply!

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temperedolive · 05/05/2025 11:11

Ceramiq · 05/05/2025 10:59

Why do you think your DD would struggle to find a host family in Paris? That is where the demand for English au pairs is greatest (by far).

I'm really not sure. She's been reading some stories on the au pair reddit than have her worried about being able to find a Parisian placement. I'll tell her what you say.

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Ceramiq · 05/05/2025 15:40

temperedolive · 05/05/2025 11:11

I'm really not sure. She's been reading some stories on the au pair reddit than have her worried about being able to find a Parisian placement. I'll tell her what you say.

She really shouldn't worry. It's EXTREMELY important not to set up au pair placements directly with a family.

Radiatorvalves · 05/05/2025 15:45

Not sure what the rules in France are about au pairs post Brexit, but I’m pretty sure she will need a visa. A friends au pair recently returned to the Uk, said she was an au pair and got deported. Do carefully check the rules. Canada sounds like a great alternative - my DS is spending his 3rd uni year there. Lots of opportunity to practice his (good) GCSE French and skiing!!

temperedolive · 05/05/2025 15:46

Ceramiq · 05/05/2025 15:40

She really shouldn't worry. It's EXTREMELY important not to set up au pair placements directly with a family.

You mean going through an agency? Yes, she's been looking at some of the recommended ones.

Can I ask if you have an au pair, or if you've ever been one? I'd love to hear about experiences from both sides of the program.

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Ceramiq · 05/05/2025 15:50

temperedolive · 05/05/2025 15:46

You mean going through an agency? Yes, she's been looking at some of the recommended ones.

Can I ask if you have an au pair, or if you've ever been one? I'd love to hear about experiences from both sides of the program.

I'll DM you

Radiatorvalves · 05/05/2025 16:24

We had APs in the past…. Some great and some less so. When being interviewed she should trust her instincts about which family would be a good fit. Every time I ignored mine I regretted it! From my own experience 30+ years ago in rural France I’d advise that she goes to a town, not necessarily Paris, but somewhere she won’t be isolated. Think Marseilles, Lyon, Lille, Bordeaux etc. and she should ensure she’s 100% clear on the family’s expectations. I was massively exploited….

temperedolive · 06/05/2025 00:35

@Radiatorvalves Yes, she'd need a visa for France. Canada would be visa-free for her, because she's a dual citizen. I'm glad to hear your DS is having a positive experience there! Can I ask what area he's located in?

I'm very sorry to hear your time as an au pair was so negative...

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Radiatorvalves · 06/05/2025 11:30

temperedolive · 06/05/2025 00:35

@Radiatorvalves Yes, she'd need a visa for France. Canada would be visa-free for her, because she's a dual citizen. I'm glad to hear your DS is having a positive experience there! Can I ask what area he's located in?

I'm very sorry to hear your time as an au pair was so negative...

He’ll be at McGill and is so excited! My AP experience was more of a learning experience… my French improved massively and on the (few) days I made it into Toulouse, I loved it. But agreed much of the rest wasn’t ideal. Not scarred though!! And later on I went to uni there, did a ski season and we gave a holiday house too so it all worked out. Good luck to your daughter.

temperedolive · 07/05/2025 07:54

@Radiatorvalves McGill is suh a wonderful uni! My brother did his M.Eng there. Best of luck to him!

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