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Lost motivation

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Worrywart78 · 02/11/2024 17:20

Dd16 has never had a problem with motivation to learn. She always did her homework/revision without any nagging and ended up doing very well at gcse. This situation is therefore very foreign.
She likes college, has made some friends and appears settled but I’ve noticed she’s done no work over half term which is unusual. She said that she has no official homework and would be having a break and then do some independent study this weekend. Of course the weekend is here and she’s just said that she has no motivation to do any work and can’t bring herself to do anything. She isn’t depressed as has been really happy, silly and generally fine all week. I know she is struggling with thinking about the future as she has no idea about future careers and isn’t sure she wants to go to uni. We have chatted previously about having time to think after a levels and not rushing to uni. I think this is a problem as a levels seem rather pointless but I asked how she would feel to get d grades rather than the a grades she is predicted.
I suggested speaking to the college about her feelings but she’s not keen.

what advice should I give her and what advice would you give to me! (Worry wart by nature I’m afraid!)

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Changed18 · 02/11/2024 17:37

I’d accept this week as having a break and see how she feels when she’s back.

More generally it sounds as if she’s lacking motivation without a goal to aim at. Maybe talk about keeping her options open while pointing out the higher her level of qualifications the more she can progress in a future career, once she’s decided what that is.

Totally sympathise with having no idea what you want to do - it took me till I was mid-20s but I’d still got a A-levels and a degree in a subject that interested me in the meantime. They came in very handy once I’d decided…

November2024WL · 02/11/2024 17:38

It is only half term of her first year term. I wouldn’t worry. She will find her pace.

I just said to my DS this part of your education is on you. I will help if you ask. January 2023 (before his A levels in August 2023) he came to me for help. He needed A in one subject and he was getting B’s. He had left it late. We booked him on a residential revision course over Easter break and he got the A he needed.

IMO you have to hand the reigns over to them but be on hand when they ask for help.

It is tough.

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