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How do I help my DD navigate this?

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Carrie370 · 18/09/2023 19:16

Feeling helpless at the moment, and would love to hear others' experiences. My DD is an undergraduate at a Russell group uni. She's very bright, but following a haul of top grade GCSEs and two academic scholarships at school, she gradually started to fall off her perch academically.

During her second year at uni, (which coincided with Covid) and only just scraping through her exams, she was finally diagnosed with ADHD. She was permitted to repeat the second year, and since then, she has just about managed to keep a handle on her studies, until today. She has found out that she has failed the third year exam she took in August, having been sick (or so she said - I have my suspicions that she couldn't face it) back in the Spring.

She has been told that she will have to repeat the whole year, meaning six years at uni, or convert from an MSc to a BSc, - five years. She has a meeting with the faculty tutor tomorrow to discuss.

I am just devastated for her. She likens her ADHD as sitting in a car with all the controls at her disposal but no key to turn the engine on. Part of me wants to wrap her up and bring her home, but equally I want her to succeed (which I know is what she wants for herself). She has said that she hates the subject she has chosen, but having invested four years in her degree already, feels it is far too late to drop out.

I don't know how to advise her.

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Rollergirl11 · 19/09/2023 09:59

I think you might want to get this thread moved to the Higher Education section and then you might get more responses…

Is your DD taking medication for her ADHD?

FallingAutumnLeaf · 19/09/2023 10:41

If she hates the course, I'd drop to the BSc.
I'd also agree to trying medication to get through her final year, then reassess what she wants to do.

Spirallingdownwards · 19/09/2023 10:57

I assume you realise she will have to self fund one of her years at uni now by repeating a second year as student finance is available for the length of course plus one year (if that is a consideration).

Carrie370 · 19/09/2023 11:50

Thank you all. I did repost the thread to AIBU where i got considerably more responses!
This upcoming year will definitely be her last, she has decided, and is meeting with the head of faculty tomorrow to discuss her options. I agree it does not make sense to carry on with the MSc if she's struggling and does not enjoy it.
She will also meet with the learning support department and re-engage with the psychiatry team who diagnosed her.
We will get there! I have reminded her that none of this will matter in 10 years time 🤔

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