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Son doesn't know what to do

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Princesspollyyy · 16/09/2023 18:50

Hi,

Our son (17), finished his GCSE's and did a plumbing course which he passed this June. The next step was to find an apprenticeship, but we really struggled with this, despite asking loads of places.

Our son works in a coffee shop part-time, and at the moment this is what he is doing. He is also spending a lot of time going out with friends, sometimes staying out really late at night. We are not happy with this and have been giving him times to be home by.

We keep asking him what his plans are and what he wants to do with regards to his education or working. He has tried applying for full time jobs, but has been turned down literally everywhere, so he is working at the coffee shop for now, which he really hates. Also it's not the application that is poor as I have been helping with applying.

He is a bright boy, and is really capable. I'm really frustrated as I know he is really capable, and if he was to continue his study then he could end up qualified and in a skilled job, with a really good income.

He will only get free education until he is 19, then he would have to pay to do a college course, so I really feel that time is of the essence here. He just keeps saying he doesn't know what he wants to do. He won't engage.

He recently had his head turned by a girl, and it ended badly. That was several months ago now though, and I feel he really needs to think about himself and his future.

Any help?

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TizerorFizz · 17/09/2023 22:51

“He had his head turned by a girl”! Do you seriously mean your DS really is unable to make any decisions for himself! It’s a girls’ fault? No. It’s his fault.

If he’s done the plumbing course, he might need to contact every plumber he can. If he’s coming across as not wanting what he wants to do, are the plumbers not sensing this? Did the college have careers advisers? Can they guide him towards apprenticeships? He should still be in education. Maybe widen his search of jobs and think a bit more about what he does want if it’s not coffee!

loreau · 18/09/2023 12:08

Could he do an electrician's or gas course as well to make himself more attractive to potential employers? Or ask plumbers for a week's work experience so they can meet him first hand and see how useful he could be?

Princesspollyyy · 20/09/2023 17:24

??

I just mean he got into a relationship and had been putting that first instead of his studies?? Where did I say that was not his fault?? 😢

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Princesspollyyy · 22/09/2023 13:26

Thanks that’s really helpful x

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Muchtoomuchtodo · 22/09/2023 13:36

What other vocational courses are available locally? Colleges often have great links for apprenticeships so being in a learning environment is likely to being more opportunities his way.

Inlimboin50s · 20/11/2024 17:56

Just bumping as my son will be in this position.
He will complete his level 2 plumbing course in June and has been looking for an apprenticeship. Apart from two miles away when I put Midlands in the search no one seems to be taking any on? He has also emailed about ten plumbers in our area,but these are just one guy working on his own and don't take any. One even said he was leaving plumbing after 10 years in the business as he said it wasn't the same anymore?
Did your son manage to find one?
My son has a pot washing job in a pub so I said it's important to keep that.

DirlingWhervish · 20/11/2024 18:00

Could he do a business management course while he's looking for an apprenticeship? Does he actually want to do plumbing?

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