@Benjispruce4 I have been following your horrible time since results and think you are doing all the right things for your DD. I don't know about York, but DS1's GF is at Sheffield Hallam but all her housemates are Sheffield Uni and she belongs to the Sheffield Uni dance society, the two unis are very much entwined. The most important thing is probably that the course is right and that she can get accommodation. If either of those things are in doubt you need ybe careful. Most fall in love with their university town/city. It is really rubbish that the change in student finance is putting extra pressure on them to make a rushed decision. I think I would be enough a gap year at this stage because I would want them to start in a positive frame of mind, but people need to make decisions which work for them. If the BF is already at uni, I guess she won't want to be 2 years behind. Have you looked into why the results were so much lower than expected? Any scope for reviews of marking? I can't remember if you have told us how far off she was.
@tryingmybest13 as a veteran of reviews of markings and appeals, I would definitely advise you to get papers back before you get re-matks. You can then focus on the one most likely to go up. You are not in a hurry as it does not affect a university place, so you can do it in a measured way.
@cheninblanc hope you make progress today. I thought most Falmouth offers were unconditional, maybe they are still planning to accept?
@Alsoplayspiccolo people can be awful, often unintentionally, but that self deprecating bragging thing is something we all see. We are all on here because we want to support our children to achieve their potential, but most of all to be happy. They are all different in their skills and abilities and face different challenges. You are clearly a great mum and are doing a brilliant job, I am sure your DC know that, which is what matters.