My DS is first year at Uni in the north while I am home in Sussex. He's doing an arts BA and this year has obviously been tough, he's had little face to face and was largely stuck on 10th floor halls on zoom.
He seemed to love uni life and arranged a house for next year with me as guarantor. But since around March, he has not seemed to engage at all and I believe is behind on work and not attended face to face learning which is now back on. I had discussed with him over Easter and he returned to uni promising to reach out to his course tutor about issues he was having, he had given uni permission to include me on emails. But since he returned to uni at the end of April, uni haven't heard from him and his course tutor is now cc'ing me on emails asking where he is.
I've spoken to my DS and asked him to urgently reach out but he doesn't, having promised he will. I am worried about his state of mind and the possibility he will lose his place on the course. I'm a single mum and also concerned re his student finance and my liability for next years rent.
Does anyone have any advice re how to handle this? I am at a loss. The ball is in his court re uni but he's not dealing with it. Even if I tried to access their pastoral support on the grounds of his suspect mental health, not sure he'd engage. What to do? Such a stress. He's 19, I thought I'd be in the clear by now 