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6th Form College & Angry Tutor Targeting DD (SN). Advice Please?

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RockinHippy · 23/01/2020 18:13

DD has 2 tutors for one of her A level topics. One of which sounds like a bad tempered bully & is frequently targeting DD, despite her being a hardworking student doing well in this & other subjects. Possibly picking her out when telling off the whole class due to her having quite an alternative sense of dress compared to the rest of the class, we can't think of any other reason.

Apparently this tutor has form for bullying pupils to the extent that 2 girls swapped to another les sort after college to get away from him, as he was affecting them so badly. DD says she thought this was just an exaggerated story, but says she can now understand why they felt that way as he makes her feel so anxious.

She also has SN in that she has a medical diagnosis that prevents her carrying heavy books around without causing her pain. She has a diagnosed anxiety disorder related to both of her her physical diagnosis & is accepted by our GP & college as having HFA/Aspergers, though not yet assessed due to lack of services & understanding high functioning girls. Stress & shock make her physically very ill with flu like symptoms as is common with her medical diagnosis.

Several times she's had me concerned about the behaviour of this teacher & how anxious this makes DD to the point if dreading lessons &, staying up all night to complete homework she's been too ill to do earlier & other teachers would make allowances for as they know she works hard.

Today she came home looking like a ghost, shaky & complaining of flu like aches & complete lack of energy in her muscles & has collapsed in bed. She's clearly upset & I recognised this as a reaction to this upset & it's probably going to mean missing college tomorrow as she's now too ill.

She's explained to me that she was singled out & shouted at in class, despite being one of many that didn't have their work book with them for marking today, having not been asked by this tutor to bring it as is normal & her being the only pupil with a valid reason not to carry it at all time. It's a large heavy book & she's carried it in 2 lessons running because it was asked to via email, but the book was not marked.

How does this sort of thing work I college please ?

What can I do without making things worse for DD ?

Thank you

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MollyButton · 23/01/2020 23:31

You need to contact the College. There should be someone with pastoral responsibility for your DD. Also have you been in contact with Learning Support? They should also be involved.

His behaviour sounds discriminatory and is totally unacceptable. To be honest this kind of behaviour could get the college into a lot of trouble. Remember you wouldn't accept this kind of behaviour in the work place.

If your DD has him tomorrow you might want to give her a mental health day to recover. And I would strongly suggest taking her to your GP to explain the stress that college is causing.

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