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You'll find discussions about A Levels and universities on our Further Education forum.

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Not heard back from 1st choice uni

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NigellasGuest · 04/03/2018 10:22

My dd has had 3 offers for september thisbyear which clearly is a great position to be in, especially as one of them is unconditional if she puts them as her first choice (consort of conditional by YKWIM)...
However, she's still waiting to hear from her preferred place and is getting into a stew about it, especially as this preferred place has offered an interview to her friend already. It doesn't help that she is ASD (high functioning) and finds it hard to cope with uncertainty so this is causing a lot of anxiety. I'm telling her to stay calm and patient and that these unis all have different ways of doing things but of course I'm also a little concerned.
Can anyone give any idea of what might be going on? Perhaps they have a first list of people to interview and if these don't go well then they contact people on a sort of reserve list?
Any suggestions would be welcome- TIA!

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mixture · 04/03/2018 10:25

Maybe you or your daughter can call them tomorrow (=phone) and ask about the procedure?

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NigellasGuest · 04/03/2018 10:39

Thanks for replying! A friend suggested that, and dd recoiled in horror! Would it look bad if I called them as her mum? I know this is uni and they Are meant to stand on their own two feet ....

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NigellasGuest · 04/03/2018 10:42

I can't even explain that dd is on the spectrum and that's why I'm calling, because dd flat out refused to acknowledge any kind of SEN on application forms, despite being told time and again it's so they can give extra help etc.

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mixture · 04/03/2018 11:44

She's young so you can get away with her being shy or maybe holding down a job whilst you are at home having plenty of time... Another way is for you two to call them on your (or her) smartphone's speaker phone. That might be the best option actually.

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NigellasGuest · 04/03/2018 15:17

I might give them a call tomorrow. Both of us doing it on speaker phone isn't going to happen though unfortunately!!

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eatyourveg · 04/03/2018 21:12

Is it Durham she is waiting for? They are notoriously slow at giving out offers - several other mnetters on the HE threads have dc waiting to hear from there. I'm not sure ringing would make any difference but then again maybe a call to explain how anxious your dd can be as a result of her asd might go some way. Good luck

chocolateworshipper · 04/03/2018 21:19

My DD isn't going to uni, so I don't know if this is normal. However, if you go to a thread called "Half Way Through Year 13" within Further Education, you can ask lots of parents who are at the same stage and they will definitely be happy to tell you whether their DCs have heard from all of their uni choices or not.

LIZS · 04/03/2018 21:20

She mustn't take it personally. Some unis simply leave it late to respond. However if her asd is so severe that she cannot make a call or even email it may be better to focus on those she has an offer from.

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NigellasGuest · 04/03/2018 22:38

Not Durham, but London College of Fashion. Her asd isn't that severe but she is anxious about calling.... perhaps we should just wait it out!

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mixture · 05/03/2018 05:22

A lot of people are anxious about calling over a phone line these days, and would prefer to text if it was possible. It's not unusual or uncommon. It's just us old people who grew up with phones who aren't equally baffled by placing a phone call to someone unknown.

mixture · 05/03/2018 05:25

As a side note, I recently saw an ad on the telly, explaining how and where to write an address on an envelope and where to put the stamp. I then realised that's not self explanatory either, and again it's just us old people who remember a time when there was no internet who are able to (in our sleep) write out an address on an envelope and know exactly where to put the stamp.

Bowerbird5 · 05/03/2018 05:37

Hmm I think I remember DD saying they were slow. Her friend applied there. DD had same day offer 3rd choice, next day offer 2nd choice and ten day wait for her first choice. It was agonising for her( and me) waiting then she was offered a place on course and one on back up choice. She then spent a week umming and aching which to take. I wouldn't help with that decision as knew if it was mistake I would get the blame! She ended up taking back up choice and loved it.
Get her to keep busy by preparing her portfolio. If she doesn't get in could she do a foundation elsewhere then re apply next year? DD went with her A levels and Foundation in her pocket. Hence the quick offers. Might be a back up plan for you to suggest if she doesn't get it. It is very competitive so is Bristol Fashion I saw one of there degree shows some amazing work.

Littledrummergirl · 05/03/2018 15:17

Ds1 is still waiting on two of his choices for a different course. They have said most offers will be made before the end of March but they will continue until May.
It's hard when you hear of others who have had interviews and offers while you are still waiting to hear anything. We are focussing ds1 on working hard to get the best results he can in August so that he can say he did well for himself.
Unfortunately for him it's just a case of waiting.
Good luck to your dd.

Jon66 · 05/03/2018 15:19

FFS just call them.

ReservoirDogs · 29/05/2018 21:30

Did she get an odfer?

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