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SW coming to see us Thursday night!

23 replies

Pwsimerimew · 30/11/2009 19:58

Excited and wanted to tell you!

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disneychic · 01/12/2009 07:24

Good Luck!!!!

Lotsofchooks · 01/12/2009 12:46

Good luck from me too!

Pwsimerimew · 01/12/2009 16:16

Thanks! Should I bribe my kids to act like little angels while she's here, or just hide them away somewhere?

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disneychic · 01/12/2009 20:37

You could ask her for a swap!!! lol

Pwsimerimew · 03/12/2009 17:38

Oh no! She's not coming! She left a message this afternoon saying something's come up, which I didn't get - never mind, at least the house is clean! I can bribe my kids to help again next week! (She called for a second time as I was coming out of the shower)
So looking forward to talking with her, I hope we won't get cold feet in the next 5 days....

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Pwsimerimew · 04/01/2010 15:25

Quick update, we're going for an induction course in two weeks time. I'm looking forwards but my husband has reservations.
We'll see how it goes......

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Imisssleeping · 04/01/2010 17:56

did the sw come, what happened then?
Just starting on this process so interested to know how it goes.
good luck

Pwsimerimew · 04/01/2010 18:28

She was lovely, really put us at ease. Kept saying " no pressure!" THey only hold two induction courses a year and the next one happens to be in two weeks time, so we filled in the forms within a week, including finding three referees each, which we have known for 5 years. (Hard as we live in a new area!)
She said that we can pull out any time that we feel that it's not for us, which made my DH feel a bit better.
We cleaned the whole house but she only asked to see the spare bedroom.
She was friendly and not at all scary!

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Imisssleeping · 04/01/2010 18:34

I've nearly filled my forms in - takes ages! But not had a visit yet, I went to an open evening first and that's when I was given the forms.
twice a year isn't much for the courses. I hope I don't have to wait too long!

Pwsimerimew · 04/01/2010 20:37

Thats why we jumped at this chance! I'm dreading the assessment part...aparently they ask pesonal questions????? How personal.....
I understand why they have to do it, nut wonder how DH will cope if it's too personal!

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Imisssleeping · 04/01/2010 21:44

There's just me so don't have to worry about anyone else.
I understand there questions are personal but I know I'm doing this for the right reasons and don't have any skeletons so am not too worried.

The hardest thing is remembering all the different addresses I've lived at since I was 18!!!

Lotsofchooks · 05/01/2010 17:19

Are you going with an agency or LA?

Imisssleeping · 05/01/2010 19:03

I'm starting off with LA as initially I think I would prefer respite or emergency fostering.

NanaNina · 06/01/2010 23:23

Pwsimerimew - I am an independent soc worker after having retired some years ago after 25 years in fostering and adoption for a local authority. I now work part time assessing foster carers and adoptors. There is as you probably know a great shortage of foster carers so glad to hear you are considering this.

Your sw is quite right to advise you to pull out at any time you don't feel this is right for you. You both need to be in it together for it to work, but it's also quite normal for people to be uncertain as to whether it's right for them. I am never worried about this - in fact the opposite worries me more, i.e. when prospective carers are adamant that it will all be fine etc because I don't think this is realistic.

Remember the process is a 2 way thing - yes you will need to be assessed but you also need to work out if you think it's something that's right for your family. As far as the a/ment goes, it is extremely comprehensive for obvious reasons. If you carry on in the process you will be invited to a preparation course where you will learn about all aspects of fostering.

The whole process should be open and you can have info as to what the assessment involves. Different l.a.s use slightly different versions but they all follow the Form F (produced by British Agencies for Fostering & Adoption BAAF) and you can find info about this and other things on their website. You might also like to look at Fostering Network website (the national organisation for fostering)

Imisssleeping has mentioned respite fostering and I think this is a good way to start off, especially if you remain uncertain about whether this is right for you. Ask you sw to explain about this as it allows you to "dip your toe" in the water without making the committment needed for other kinds of fostering and you can always move to short term fostering at a later date if you so wish.

Good luck and happy to help further if necessary

Pwsimerimew · 08/01/2010 12:38

Thank you NanaNina. Things are moving forward - our referees have all had questionaires through the post, we've had our medical checks form and police check s forms through.
If I can do this, I'll be dead proud. You know, a lot of people want to make a difference in this world but it feels as everything is too far out of reach. Fostering is one way that a lot of people could "do their bit" to ease the suffering of the world.
Sorry about that, but I can't change the world on my own can I?

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Lotsofchooks · 08/01/2010 16:22

Good luck! The reason I asked whether with an Agency or LA was that in November we were approved as LA foster carers and from our point of view I didn't find anthing too personal. Questions like what religious beliefs? What type of hol you went on as a child, how were you parented and what would you change? How would you describe your partner both good and bad bits?!

We both had quite boring and non eventual upbringings, so depending on what yours were like the answers and questions could vary on your own personal circumstances, however for us and our 'average' upbringings, we didn't find anything intrusive.

Pwsimerimew · 13/01/2010 15:56

Lotsof - thank you, you've put my mind to rest

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Pwsimerimew · 25/01/2010 16:40

Just to update you with our progress... we've been to an "introduction to fostering" course which we both enjoyed, I've been for a medical, and we've been allocated a social worker!

Assessment will be starting in March, so it's all systems go!

Wish me luck

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disneychic · 26/02/2010 13:55

Well Done!! Good Luck xx Hope everything goes well for you

Pwsimerimew · 26/02/2010 17:13

Thank you - I hust hope that we're accepted, and that we enjoy if once we start!

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dolphin13 · 27/02/2010 22:41

good luck. We became LA carers 5 years ago have since adopted one of our children as well. Still fostering and it's the best thing we ever did. Hard work often heartbreaking but oh so rewarding. Keep a sense of humour and you will love it.

Pwsimerimew · 01/03/2010 15:57
Grin
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Pwsimerimew · 21/06/2010 20:38

We're going to panel on Wednesday. I'm nervous and excited. Please tell me what to expect.....

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