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Advice on fostering family members

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TeeBee · 15/05/2009 12:15

Hi all, please could I have some advice?

My brother has just learned that he is the dad of a 1-year old who has been taken into care because her mum is not able to look after her and has possibly been mistreating her. My brother is not in a position just yet to be able to look after her himself so me and my husband are considering offering to foster her for a few years until he is able to take over the reins, as it were. Has anyone fostered family members before. Is the process for being approved to foster a family member the same as fostering non-family? Do you have to go through the whole approval process before she could be placed with us (we are keen to get her out of care as soon as possible)?

As the little girl is only 1 year old, would SS prefer to her to be placed with a permanent adoptive family, rather than being with us for a few years, then moving to my brother's home?

I don't know whether we are even doing the right thing by even offering to foster her if she could be placed with a permanent adoptive family and would therefore be less likely to be batted backwards and forwards.

Ahhh, please help!!

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giraffesCantRunA10k · 16/05/2009 10:52

No personal experience but my best friends family are kinship carers for her cousins - hard work as they thought their young children days were over but they made the decision to take them on. I think they found it hard to claim money for the children and that was a difficulty they had, its sorted now but thats been a few years they have been with them.

Good luck with it if thats what you decide

paranoidmother · 16/05/2009 11:42

I think it's worth talking to them as soon as possible before she gets moved around too much. I know that a friend at work her husband and she have fostered his grand-daughter as his daughter was in no condition to look after her.

So it is possible and I think they prefer family than strangers if possible and it would mean that she would have contact with her father, your brother to.

Good Luck

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TeeBee · 16/05/2009 18:42

Thank very much. Yes, we do want to try to get her as soon as possible. Lets hope it works out.

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