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Social worker coming tonight for our first assessment!

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CalaLilly · 03/12/2008 15:34

My OH are in our mid 20's. we got married 18months ago and would very very much love to one day become parents to children of our own. However, given the current financial climate, hubby's professional loans from his barrister training days and the mere fact I'm currently slightly over half way through a PhD, we think it's not yet the right time for us to start trying. A down side of this is that I am as broody as people come- my PhD is on the transition to parenthood and I'm a neonatal nurse so it's difficult to imagine someone else who loves babies more and who yearns more to be a mummy herself. I've started doing some shifts on neonatal units alongside my PhD but now hubby and I are considering fostering- not long term or even short term fostering but "just" short break or disability break fostering where a kid would come to stay with us one or 2 weekends a month to give their parents a much needed break so that they are able to stay within their natural network most of the time.

We always thought we'd foster one day but kind of expected it to be way off in the future but now we think "why wait"? As a children's nurse and a lawyer I think that one day we'll (hopefully) make good parents so why wait until we've had the experience of having our own brood when the foster services are stretched to capacity and need volunteers now and we'd like a kid (of any age) in our home on the odd occasion now? We've seen lots of adverts lately for fostering and each stress that fosterer's can come from all walks and stages of life.

And so we have the social worker coming tonight for our first assessment- eeek! Does anyone know what we might expect from such a visit?

Thanks!

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CalaLilly · 03/12/2008 15:58

The social worker has just cancelled and re-arranged for next week so I've more time to canvas some of your thoughts on what her visit may be like!

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DesperatelySeekingSanity · 04/12/2008 15:34

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CalaLilly · 04/12/2008 15:52

Thanks so much for your reply- it's very insightful! I hadn't thought too much about what rooms they may look in so that's a great help. Having worked with social workers through my nursing career I won't be too OTT about the tidying though- there is no point giving them a false impression of how I keep the house

We're not yet sure about being disability fosterers or just short break for kids without disability. As a nurse with lots of experience of special needs it seems silly not to offer my experiences- OH hasn't had any experience of this though. But then if it were our own child who was born with a condition then he still wouldn't have had any experience.

Thanks for the warning about short break fosterers been ouched to foster longer term. There wouldn't be any way round it for us as we don't have the time for anything more substantial. I'm quote good at being firm and switching off to sob stories when there's no other option- that's what kids nursing does for you!

Cheers

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