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What are my likely outcomes for adoption

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Latetothe · 02/04/2025 07:16

We have a DD but had a long journey to her and she is from a donor egg. We have finished our embryos and no sibling.

I always wanted to adopt but DH was less keen but has changed his mind after actually being a parent.

I am 47 he is 45 and DD just turned 4. Are we likely to be successful for adoption. We are mixed race me Indian and Husband white. What are might we expect and would fostering be the likely route? Based in Lewisham also…

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KnickerlessFlannel · 02/04/2025 07:21

Morning

I would suggest contacting both your lor local authority and some independent adoption charities to undertake initial enquiries and ask for some advice and guidance. On paper at a first glance you sound reasonably well.placed. A social worker will want to talk to you, your husband and dd at length and will also talk to extended family etc. Your husband should be open and honest about his change of heart - this will not be an automatic barrier but does need to be explored.

In regards to fostering I would advise against fostering to adopt because of your daughter's age. While you may be fortunate to have a very young baby placed and staying with you, you may also look after a baby where the court ends up making a different decision which is heartbreaking for adults but even worse for small children. I'd suggest expecting a baby from probably 9 months plus once care proceedings have concluded.

TeenToTwenties · 02/04/2025 07:22

Hi.

Fostering is not the route to adoption. They are two separate things.

You need the adoption board. Smile

There is no reason you have posted so far that would prevent adoption. Generally speaking they try to match heritage, and the adopted child would need to be at least 2 years younger than your own birth child.

(There is 'early permanence' within adoption which is Foster-to-Adopt where it is planned that if the child can't be returned to birth family you would adopt them. Personally I wouldn't do that with a birth child already due to the impact and return could have on the birth child.)

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Latetothe · 02/04/2025 07:25

Amazing thanks both. I couldn’t see the adoption Board? I’ll have another look. Thank you

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